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Essential Oils for Emotional Armoring

I used to visualize full body armor as a protective mechanism during rush hour on the New York City subway.  

It was the only way I could physically and emotionally navigate that many people and that much hostility.

What I didn’t realize at the time was how accurate that visualization was.

Since early childhood, I have been creating emotional armor to protect myself from pain, rejection, criticism, and other hurtful feedback or interactions.  Armoring was a necessary defense mechanism that allowed me to survive my childhood.  I learned to count on myself and suppress my feelings, wants, and needs so that I would never be disappointed.  I made myself small – often believing I was invisible – and rarely asked for anything.

While this coping mechanism allowed me to survive my childhood, it became problematic in adulthood – especially in my intimate relationships where my inability to communicate my wants and needs left me feeling frustrated and unsupported.

As I have been working to release fascia restrictions and physical armor, my emotional armoring has begun to unravel as well.

Emotional armor refers to the protective wrap you put around yourself to stop the things that have hurt you in the past from ever hurting you again.  Emotional armor acts as a barrier between you and your emotions – it protects you from feeling deep hurt.

You may develop emotional armor throughout your life as a protective mechanism to shield against emotional and physical threats. As you may recall, your body doesn’t differentiate between physical threats and emotional threats, including wounding words or parental absence or abuse during formative years. To protect itself from a perceived threat, your body may brace for impact with a defensive, tight, or tense posture or stance.

Physically, it may present as unconscious or involuntary tension in your muscles and connective tissue that dampens or blocks emotional expression, alters the perception of either physical or emotional experiences, and diminishes or eliminates your awareness of pain. These tensions in the fascia and the musculature are believed to create a physical armor that may shield or protect you from unresolved traumas, stress, and negative emotions. 

Emotionally, it can present in response to intense emotional assaults or feelings of shame, blame, guilt, rejection, criticism, or other attacks on your self-esteem. Emotional armor can take the form of avoidance, denial, dismissing, or distraction as a way of protecting yourself from any possible hurt from losing control or being less independent.

Emotional body armor often manifests in the body as the habitual contraction of certain sets of muscles, which then function as a unit. Armoring also occurs within the organs and tissues in various parts of the body. For example, armor can form around your throat if you feel you need to hold back or repress your thoughts or feelings to conform to the expectations of your family or community. Armor can also present as a psychological defense mechanism, including social withdrawal, depression, anxiety, irritability, or isolation.

Armoring is a way of protecting yourself from the pain of not expressing those parts of yourself that you have been indoctrinated to suppress or ignore. As such, armoring may help you cope with or adapt in the face of chronically stressful and traumatic events, encapsulating the memories and emotions associated with these experiences. 

Your armor is a protective layer held as a form of memory and will not be released until you know that you are safe. 

Body armoring can present in various physical or emotional ways, including:

  • Neck Tension or Pain:  Armoring in the neck involves the holding back of anger and grief. A closing up of the throat takes place whenever we repress our true thoughts and feelings.
  • Digestive Issues: Emotions that we fail to process or “digest” often remain trapped within the abdomen, contributing to intestinal pain and digestive disorders.
  • Shallow/restricted breathing: Holding your breath, shallow or restricted breathing in the chest area may result from an attempt to guard against or suppress overwhelming emotions or situations. This kind of armoring may in turn prevent your ability to fully express your emotions, contributing to greater feelings of anxiety.
  • Tight Jaw and Clenched Teeth: Clenching your jaw or grinding your teeth can reflect repressed anger, frustration, feelings of powerlessness, or a need to control your emotions.
  • Stiff Back and Rigid Posture: An inflexible or rigid posture may indicate a need to protect yourself from vulnerability, criticism, or fear of being judged.
  • Raised Shoulders: Rounded shoulders and a hunched back can indicate a desire to physically withdraw, shield yourself, or create a physical protective barrier. Tension held in your shoulders might also reflect an unconscious “shouldering” of emotional burdens that may result from a sense of responsibility, stress, or the need to carry the weight of others’ expectations. Raising your shoulders is a primal impulse to protect yourself by appearing bigger.
  • Clenched fists: This defensive stance correlates to close-mindedness, or an unwillingness to embrace – or even explore – new possibilities. 
  • Fidgeting: Keeps you prepared to fight or flee as part of you may be convinced that it is not safe to relax, and it is not safe to feel.
  • Tighten Abdominal Muscles: Clenching your abdominal muscles can be a response to fear or a need to protect your vulnerable core in relation to emotions or feelings of insecurity.]
  • Rigid Pelvic Muscles: Tension in the pelvic area might stem from sexual shame, guilt, or past trauma. This kind of armoring may impact your ability to experience pleasure or feel comfortable in your body.
  • Tense Focus or Frozen Facial Expressions: A lack of facial expressiveness may indicate an attempt to hide true emotions, often in response to social expectations or past experiences.
  • Tight Glutes, Thighs, or Restless Legs: Holding tension in your lower body may reflect a desire to be in control or guard against the lack of control experienced through feelings of instability or insecurity.
  • Numbness or feeling disconnected: a way to protect you from feeling pain. We can easily become very desensitized or go numb when we’re subjected to ongoing stress. Parts of our consciousness start shutting down and then all that emotion remains trapped within our bodies. These stressful emotions cause our bodies to tense up. Parts of our bodies become armored when tensing up becomes a habitual pattern.

Emotional armor may protect you from experiencing painful emotions, but it also prevents you from experiencing positive emotions.  It can restrict the flow of energy, emotions, and even your ability to experience pleasure. Long-term emotional armoring may also prevent you from healing the underlying wounds that are keeping you stuck in a chronic stress response.

Armoring can affect the way you see the world, yourself, and your relationships, silently shaping the expectations you may have of yourself and others, and what you think you deserve and are allowed to ask for. 

Armoring can also affect the way your nervous system, limbic system, and body function. You may create emotional armor to protect yourself and build walls around your heart to avoid the pain of rejection or abandonment. 

Building walls around your heart may appear to create a safe where no harm can touch you, but it also blocks your ability to receive love and support from others. This was definitely the case for me.  

My fear of being hurt, rejected, or abandoned by others contributed to armor that helped me keep others at arm’s length. I labeled myself an introvert, but in reality, I was such a well-armored machine that I prevented anyone from getting close enough to hurt me.

At the same time, I prevented anyone from getting close enough to love me.

And I kept my body stuck in a state of emotional numbness, detachment, and chronic stress patterns driven by these suppressed emotions.

Armor protects you from connecting to the outside world, but it also prevents you from connecting with yourself and from releasing or detoxifying repressed emotions.

Essential oils can be topically applied to help you gently and easily release emotional armor and tension from your tissues and your heart. Oils are useful tools to help process emotions

By becoming aware of and releasing these armoring patterns, you regain the ability to fully experience and process your emotions, leading to improved emotional regulation. 

Research demonstrates that somatic (of the body) and visceral (felt in internal organs, like the gut) feedback plays a role in the repression of emotion. Armoring can disconnect different parts of your body from awareness, cutting you off from your full range of sensory and emotional experiences.  

The inhalation and topical application of essential oils can help send safety signals to your body and brain which then allow you to transmute and digest the emotions and memories that often facilitate the need for your armor.

Topically applied essential oils like Fascia Release and Lymph may help you to break down and dissolve layers of your emotional armor, which then allows your blood, oxygen, and life force to flow more freely throughout your body. 

Your sense of smell offers a direct channel to the emotional center of your brain known as your limbic system.  Smell travels through your olfactory system to your limbic system, relaying signals of both danger and safety.

Inhaling essential oils is the fastest and most efficient way to create physiological or psychological balance in your limbic system to allow you to feel the sense of safety necessary to begin to dismantle your emotional armor.

For example, Limbic Reset™ contains a proprietary blend of essential oils designed to calm threat arousal and send safety queues to help reset your limbic system and support healthy emotional regulation. Limbic Reset™ was specifically formulated with Helichrysum sandalwood and Melissa oils which are touted for brain function and known to cross the blood-brain barrier and assist in carrying oxygen to the limbic system to help rewire neural circuits in your limbic system and calm an over-active stress response.

Shifting your focus by engaging your senses – such as your sense of smell – also helps distract you from an internal state of distress, thereby lessening its intensity and the intensity of your responses to others. This allows you to feel safe and access more possibilities and options.

READ THIS NEXT: How Smell Signals Safety

For Releasing Emotional Armor is a web of connective tissue that gives your body structure and permeates, surrounds, and supports muscles, vessels, nerves, organs, and bones. Under normal circumstances, your fascia moves and stretches.

When you experience stress and armor, part of you is resistant, which triggers you to physically contract,  constrict, or pull away from physical danger, a negative thought, or an emotional aversion.  Energy doesn’t flow and your body constricts – which locks stress and the emotions that caused the stress in your body. This physical tension in your muscles and connective tissue is a protective layer known as “armoring”, a form of memory that will not release until you know that you are safe.

Armoring restricts fascia and limits movement and the flow of energy throughout the body.  When the fascia is healthy, hydrated, flexible, supple, and unrestricted, your tissues can move freely – allowing good things, like nutrients, to get in and bad things, like toxins, to get out. Simply put: when fascia is restricted, your ability to heal is compromised. 

The health of every cell in your body depends upon its ability to receive nutrients and eliminate waste. If the fascia surrounding your cells have tightness or adhesions, detoxification and provision of nutrients for the cells suffer. 

Fascia can harden and become dehydrated also as a result of emotional trauma and the body’s response to extreme stress. This dehydration, tightening, and hardening decreases the space between the fibers, causing fibers to shorten, thicken, and constrict, trapping emotional energy. When you release restricted fascia, emotions get a chance to recirculate in the body before they are flushed out. Supporting the release of these constrictions speeds up the elimination of emotional toxins.

Fascia Release generates a state of coherence in the cells of your fascia, supporting order and alignment in the body. Topically applying Fascia Release™  liberally around the tight or armored tissues may help unravel your emotional armor and deeply held tensions, constrictions, and energetic blockages in your tissues to reduce pain, and improve blood and lymphatic circulation to support bone health.



Essential Oils for Navigating Difficult People

I have a hard time with “difficult people”, often defined as people who are not easy to get along with. 

As an introvert and an empath, I actively seek to avoid conflict.

I therefore find it super stressful to spend time with people who exhibit disrespectful behavior, are combative, hostile, or confrontational as their behavior both drains my energy and greatly impacts my ability to feel safe and supported.

I often go out of my way to avoid interaction with difficult people.  

But, as we all know, there are times when contact cannot be avoided. I have one of those situations coming up – with someone whose anger and verbal violence exceeds anything I have ever experienced before.  

As that interaction cannot be avoided and I know that I cannot change this person, I have been actively researching strategies for dealing with difficult people so I might best modulate my own reaction.

Some personalities can be more challenging than others due to traits that may include:

  • Get offended frequently and easily.
  • Notoriously intense, inconsiderate or outspoken
  • Overtly hostile 
  • Needing to be right or Insisting on having things their own way
  • Making others feel uncomfortable 
  • Verbally violent
  • Diminishing, belittling or insulting
  • Bad temper or unexpected fits of rage
  • Focus only on themselves
  • Ignore your opinion
  • Use emotional blackmail (threatening, bullying, sulking, becoming cold) to manipulate you into doing what they want.
  • Refuse to honor and engage in the usual rules and social conventions
  • Attacking when someone seems too competent or strong,
  • Defensive or combative when held accountable for inappropriate behavior.”
  • Aggressive, hostile, or rude to others 
  • Difficulty regulating emotions
  • Exhibiting toxic traits, like gossiping, catastrophizing, excluding or triangulating
  • Second-guessing or challenging everything others say or do
  • Lacking concern or empathy for others 
  • Feel justified in their abusive behavior
  • Grandiosity or acting superior to others ‘
  • Expecting you to drop or change plans and accommodate them
  • Berates you or treats you like you are incompetent and unintelligent

Essential oils can be powerful tools to help you share space with difficult people as they allow you to work through your emotions and release emotions that may arise around difficult people, including anger and fear. Your sense of smell links directly to the emotional control center of your brain known as your amygdala, where emotions and emotional memories are stored.

Your sense of smell is the only one of your five senses that is directly linked to this unconscious area of your brain, known as your limbic lobe, making the sense of smell and the tool of essential oils the most direct path to healing emotions like blame, shame, and guilt.

Essential oils inhaled through the nasal passageways enable immediate access to the regions of the brain that house these intense emotions like anger, rage, and terror so we can integrate and release them as opposed to suppressing and accumulating them to our own detriment. 

The word “emotion” can be translated as “energy in motion.” Emotion is the experience of energy moving through our bodies. This emotional energy actually works at a higher speed than thought and essential oils can help us clear the energetic residue of blame so it doesn’t remain in our thought patterns, negatively impacting our energy field or our health.

Rather than continuing to endure the venomous and often verbally violent behavior silently, I have been attempting to proactively determine positive strategies to help support my own emotional regulation and sense of safety even in the face of extremely difficult or toxic people. 

Essential oils help support emotional regulation to help you better handle difficult people.

Difficult people may act out because they want to rile you up and get a reaction out of you. If you react, there’s a good chance they will repeat the behavior or grow more abusive. Instead, remaining calm and regulated helps you to ignore the person’s behavior. 

Parasympathetic can help you keep yourself balanced and prevent your fight-or-flight response from kicking in. This, in turn, helps you remain calm and control your own reaction no matter how aggressive or threatening the difficult person may become. When you are able to activate your parasympathetic nervous system, you are able to think more clearly, speak more calmly, monitor your tone, and facial expression, and avoid raising your voice. Staying calm and composed also enables you to de-escalate emotion, prevent potential violence, and move to a place where solutions can be perceived and acted upon. 

Applying Parasympathetic™ on the vagus nerve (behind the earlobe on the mastoid bone) activates your parasympathetic nervous system and allows you to feel relaxed and safe which helps to activate chemical and hormonal reactions which allow you to connect, empathize and bond with others. It also enables you to read other people’s facial expressions and assess whether they are safe to approach or whether they should be avoided – which helps improve a positive outcome with any conversation.

Activating your parasympathetic nervous system enhances your perception of being understood, seen, heard, and felt, which in turn enhances your mental and emotional capacity. When you feel safe with others, your social engagement system is activated, enhancing your ability to connect and help others feel safe.

As my friend Eva Detko notes in her new book, Sovereign Health Solution  “Chronic stress ultimately also changes the neurochemicals in the brain, which modulate cognition and mood, including serotonin. Stress can also interfere with our balance between rational thinking and emotions.”

She elaborates that “one of the signs that somebody’s vagus nerve function is poor is their disproportionate reactions to everyday stresses and situations. People whose ventral vagus nerve does not function well have a skewed perception of the world and people around them. They misinterpret what other people are trying to communicate and they tend to assume the worst. They wind themselves up very easily, tend to be very reactive and jump to conclusions, which will have a negative impact on their relationships. Their brains say: that danger is everywhere. On the other hand, a healthy ventral vagus nerve allows us to tap into the feelings that warn us of safety versus danger, to connect to ourselves and the world, and to empathize and bond with others, which supports safety. It also enables us to read other people’s facial expressions and assess whether they are safe to approach or whether they should be avoided.”

READ MORE ABOUT: Parasympathetic Pause for Mental, Emotional and Physical Health

It’s easy to feel attacked, get angry, or even lash out when someone treats you poorly, but you never know what is going on in your life.  Instead of jumping to judgment or defensive posturing, it can be helpful to drop into your heart space and practice compassion, empathy, and forgiveness. You can ease your own negative emotions by assuming that others are trying their best and that difficult people are acting out because something difficult is happening to them. Assuming good intent or giving others the benefit of the doubt can help you navigate through interactions with difficult people.

Rather than judging what the person does or says, just try to listen and understand where he or she is coming from. This doesn’t mean that you need to agree with them; it’s just that you’re choosing to treat them with the respect you seek from them. Research suggests that engaging with a person this way–acknowledging his or her point of view without judging it–can make him or her feel more understood… and, as a result, less defensive or difficult.

When this person is speaking, try not to interrupt with counter-arguments or even with attempts to try to get him or her to see things from a different, perhaps more positive point of view. Instead, try to paraphrase back to the person the points you think he or she is making, and acknowledge the emotions he or she seems to be expressing. Showing genuine interest and concern for a difficult person can help de-escalate the situation and potentially motivate them to treat you with respect in return.  

Apply Heart™ over your heart (left side of the chest) to balance the heart and support, integrate, and reset all the systems of the body, including mental clarity, physical health, and emotional balance. Opening your heart with the Heart™ blend may help you “treat others the way you want to be treated”.  

Aggressive or erratic behavior can be unsettling and disorienting. When a difficult person blows up at you out of the blue, it’s hard not to get upset, especially when the blow-up feels violent or otherwise unsafe. Your body responds by activating the sympathetic “fight-or-flight” branch of your nervous system which then triggers the release of stress hormones from the adrenal glands.

Your kidneys – which sit directly below your adrenal glands – are correlated with the emotion of fear.  In Chinese medicine, feelings of fear and paranoia can be held in the kidneys impairing function. Applying Vibrant Blue Oils Kidney Support™ over the kidneys (one inch up and out from the belly button), back of the neck, or around the outside of earlobes can help us flow through fear.

Your adrenal glands release hormones like adrenaline and cortisol which help you mobilize to either fight or flee. Their anatomical proximity to the kidneys may help explain how chronic and ongoing stress can deplete kidney energy and leave you stuck in a cycle of fear. Prolonged periods of stress can deplete our reserves of these hormones and exhaust the adrenal glands. Applying Vibrant Blue Oils Adrenal® blend over the adrenal glands (back of the body, one fist up from the 12th rib), may help to increase the body’s ability to adapt to stress and maintain healthy adrenal function.

READ THIS NEXT: How Kidneys and Adrenal Glands Respond to Fear

Difficult people who mistreat you may prompt feelings of anger, resentment, or rage.  Anger is an active emotion that can motivate you to take action and possibly shift the dynamic with the difficult person or remove yourself from the situation.

Repressing or suppressed anger is believed to be stored in your liver, according to Chinese medicine.  Energetically, your liver is responsible for maintaining harmony and the smooth movement of energy (known as chi) throughout the body, including the smooth transition between feelings and emotions as situations change around us. This liver energy supports your drive, planning, endurance, perseverance, quick, clear intellect, ambition, patience, and organizational abilities.

When your liver energy is balanced, you feel kind, benevolent, compassionate, and generous. When your liver is physically or energetically congested or stagnant, you might experience intense feelings of angry outbursts, irritability, resentment, frustration, rage, impatience, jealousy, or even depression.

Liver Support™ helps support the release of anger, including frequent irritation, impatience, resentment or frustration, being critical of yourself or others, control issues, an inability to express your feelings, feelings of not feeling heard, not feeling loved, not being recognized or appreciated. Formulated to help move through and release anger and negative emotions attached to traumatic experiences from the cells of the liver to promote optimal healing. The oils in this blend assist the body to recognize, work through, and release the anger, fear, or frustration caused by traumatic experiences so they don’t overwhelm you.

Liver Support™ allows you to gently let go of negative emotions, including repressed anger, which can create stuck energy and impede your liver’s ability to heal. Just place the bottle under your nose and breathe deeply, fully inhaling the oil for 3 – 7 breaths, then slowly exhaling while intentionally releasing the anger. It helps you breathe into and work through the emotion.  You will know that the essential oil is working when you stop smelling it.  

You can topically apply 2- 3 drops of Liver Support™ over your liver (right side of the body under the breast) to help you work through and release your anger and boost resilience. You can also apply it around the ankles as this is often an area where we hold resistance to moving forward in life and block the ability to receive joy and pleasure. Start at the back of the ankle and apply under the ankle bone around to the front and back under the other ankle bone, all while allowing yourself to release your anger. For more tips on detoxifying emotions, read this article.

READ THIS NEXT: Essential Oils for Repressed Anger

Healthy boundaries are the limits you establish around yourself to protect your time, emotions, body, and mental health from the unhealthy, draining, manipulative, or damaging behavior of difficult people.  Boundaries are the invisible lines and gates you have up to inform people what you are willing to do and not willing to do. These boundaries help define what you are willing to say “yes” to and what you decide to say “no” to. They give you a sense of agency and sovereignty over your time, energy, and physical safety.

Boundaries also convey to people how they are allowed to treat you. No matter the situation you should never be expected to accept poor, inexcusable, or violent behavior. Everyone is entitled to respect and you have a right to express your feelings if you feel you have been disrespected.

Clarity about your values and needs can help you create clear boundaries. The clearer you are about your identity and your needs, the easier it is to honor your own needs. When it comes to difficult people, boundaries can include avoiding time with them or clearly defining what kind of behavior you will and will not allow. People treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated and clearly stating and enforcing that you will not tolerate verbal violence or hostility can help protect you in your interactions with difficult people.  

For example, when it comes to setting boundaries with difficult people, consider making it about you and your limits — NOT about them.  You can tell the difficult person what you are going to do (like leave if you feel attacked), not what they should do. You’re only in control of what you do, but what you do can limit the other person. This works because it’s argument-proof and can’t be refuted.

Small Intestine Support helps you set clear boundaries and advocate for yourself in a clear, respectful way that allows you to prioritize your own physical, mental, and emotional needs. On the physical level, the small intestine plays a critical role in the digestion process, absorbing and assimilating key nutrients while preventing harmful pathogens and toxins from entering the body. On an emotional level, the small intestine plays a similarly discerning role with emotions, helping to understand experiences and determine healthy and appropriate relationships and boundaries.

Small Intestine Support™ blend supports the healthy functioning of the small intestine as it sorts and transforms food, feelings, and ideas into useful ingredients for the body/mind. It also helps correct imbalances where you are overly in tune with other’s criticism, feelings, or opinions at the expense of your own.  Small Intestine Support™ can be smelled or applied around the ears. You can start on the bottom of the ear at the earlobes and gently massage upward along the exterior of the ear, hitting many of the major reflexology points. This article and chart show specific points on the ears for specific issues.

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Essential Oils for Hope – Vibrant Blue Oils

I was sitting at the airport gate waiting to board a slightly delayed flight to Iceland with my daughter when the text came through.   

One of my closest friends from college was dropping her daughter at college. They had finished moving her into her sorority house and her husband was just putting a bag in the trunk of the car, preparing for the long drive home.

Out of nowhere, a speeding car crashed into the car parallel parked behind him which crashed the car into him, crushing his lower body between the cars. His right leg was immediately amputated and they were fighting to save his left leg and his life.  

I involuntarily burst into tears. The unexpected trauma felt so familiar to my experience with Max six years ago. And my dear friend who was now navigating through this nightmare has been one of my strongest pillars of support since we met at age 18. She has always been kind, gracious, warm, and unerringly hopeful.

When Max passed away, she sent me a book “Rare Bird” that had a profound impact on my own ability to find hope in the face of tragedy. The book was written by another mother who lost her 12-year-old son in a tragic accident right before the start of 7th grade and follows her through her year of grief. I devoured the book clinging to the idea that if someone else could survive something like this, then I could too. The book that my college friend sent gave me a role model for hope.  

In the face of this tragic accident, my friend continues to serve as a role model for hope – highlighting the small wins and navigating the disappointments with such grace and optimism that I am once again inspired to explore the health benefits associated with hope.

My dad used to say, “You need someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to” in other words something to hope for. I believe a hopeful mindset is key to mental, physical, and emotional health.

Hope is the belief that your future will be better than the present and that you have the ability to make it happen. It involves both optimism and a can-do attitude.

American psychologist Charles Snyder developed the “Hope Theory,” which focuses on developing strengths and positive traits rather than healing weaknesses or diseases.  It highlights:

  • Goals – big or small – as a cornerstone of hope.
  • Agency – the ability to stay motivated to meet your goal. It involves believing that good things will come from your actions.
  • Pathways – specific routes you develop to meet your goals. If your one pathway doesn’t work, you problem-solve to find a new pathway. High-hope people understand that roadblocks are inevitable and that it might take several tries to reach your goals.

Hopeful thinking may help set the groundwork for creating the outcome you desire. It’s a bit like manifesting.  When you focus your mental and physical energy on hopeful outcomes, the probability of achieving that particular goal or outcome becomes much more likely. 

Actively focusing on hope, allows you to more easily imagine and envision, enhance coping, and actively work toward a positive outcome. Research finds that positive emotions may help build resilience against depressive responses in times of crisis. The research observes that hope differs from other positive emotions because hope can be experienced in both safe and dire circumstances. Feeling hope in a crisis motivates people to act against the crisis and find solutions to the problems that have generated it. Conversely, the lack of hope—or inability to picture a desired end to your struggles—may undermine the motivation to endure.

Hope helps improve health. Harvard researchers found that older Americans with more hope throughout their lives had better physical health, better health behaviors, better social support, and a longer life. Hope also led to fewer chronic health problems, less depression, less anxiety, and a lower risk of cancer.

Characteristics of hope include:

  • Optimism 
  • Perception of Internal Control
  • Strong Problem-Solving Ability
  • Overcome Negative Affectivity
  • Expect things to work out for the best.
  • Believe you will succeed in the face of challenges.
  • Think that even good things can come from adverse events.
  • View challenges or obstacles as opportunities to learn.
  • Feel gratitude for the good things in your life.
  • Trust that good things will happen in the future.
  • Look for ways to make the most of opportunities.
  • Accept responsibility for mistakes but don’t dwell on them.
  • Don’t let one bad experience muddy your expectations for the future.

Hope can have many physical, mental, and emotional benefits, including: 

  • Physical health by boosting immune function and decreasing pain
  • Lower levels of anxiety, sadness and depression
  • Increased confidence, self-esteem, and sense of purpose
  • Enhances agency
  • Encourages positive action 
  • Reduces distress, wallowing, and self-pity.
  • Loneliness.
  • Reduced physical pain: People with higher levels of hope tend to have lower perceptions of pain. This may be because they are less likely to catastrophize about the pain. 
  • Increased adaptability: Optimism can help people be more adaptable, agile, and creative. 
  • Increased courage, strength, and boldness
  • Increased endurance and patience

When you have hope, you are better able to access the parts of your brain that allow you to create clear pathways forward toward your goals, in other words, hope helps access problem-solving potential. This then enhances your sense of agency or confidence in your ability to act or exert power or influence over your future goal.  

Hope may help you feel more optimistic and less helpless or uncertain about your future. Hope can also offer a buffer to sustain setbacks or unexpected bumps in the road.

Research demonstrates how positive emotions, like hope, “broaden your repertoire of cognitive and behavioral actions available” which then “builds resources for creativity and problem-solving.” 

“Positive emotions have immediate physiological and cognitive benefits. They counteract the physiological consequences of negative emotions, de-escalating arousal and returning the body to a relaxed state. Cognitively, positive emotions broaden attention and enable you to access a greater variety of cognitive and behavioral responses.” 

Much like gratitude, hope can shift you into a state of coherence where your creativity, energy, and problem-solving skills are more easily accessed to support a more hopeful outcome.

The research describes this as a “broadening mindset to build enduring personal resources and capabilities”, including resilience, coping, mental health, and social benefits. In other words, hope shifts you into a state where you are better able to access your problem-solving skills to achieve your desired outcome.  Conversely, the lack of hope —when you cannot picture a desired end to your struggles—correlates with a loss of motivation necessary to endure.

Essential oils support overall mental health and mood, helping to inspire optimism and hope.

Whether they are inhaled or used topically, essential oil compounds influence the chemistry of your brain and body by activating your olfactory receptors located in the nose or through skin absorption.

Your sense of smell connects directly to the part of your brain that regulates the release of hormones that impact your mood and emotional state. 

Essential oils travel through the nasal passageways to the brain where they bind to olfactory receptors. From there they reach the emotional center of the brain – known as the limbic system – where they can stimulate the release of neurotransmitters, like serotonin, which can influence your neurochemistry, helping to enhance mood and reduce anxiety. 

Research validates this, noting that “inhalation of essential oils can communicate signals to the olfactory system and stimulate the brain to exert neurotransmitters (e.g. serotonin and dopamine) thereby further regulating mood.”  Additional research shows that essential oils can significantly impact the brain, calming emotional states and decreasing blood pressure, heart rate, and skin temperature, which indicates a decrease in autonomic arousal.

Citrus oils, for example, are known to lift mood as their chemical composition of monoterpenes like limonene may help to lift mood, calm anxiety, alleviate depression, and literally make you feel lighter.  Citrus trees and their fruit are the embodiment of sunshine. Growing in the warmth of climates found close to the equator, citrus fruits absorb the sun daily and bring us their fruit amid winter, just when that lightness is needed the most.

Research on the Effects of citrus fragrance on immune function and depressive states found that “citrus fragrance was more effective than antidepressants.” Similar animal research found that lemon essential oil reduces anxiety.

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Heart™ balances the heart to enhance compassion and support, integrate and reset all the systems of the body, including supporting feelings of receptivity to love and praise.

Your heart integrates and balances your physical, emotional, and mental bodies, providing blood to every cell and every organ.  It also serves as a complex information processing center, influencing brain function, the nervous system, the hormonal system, and most of the body’s major organs.  When any part of your body isn’t functioning at an optimal level, your heart has to work harder.  For example, when your body is in a state of stress, it needs more oxygen which increases your heart rate.  Your heart is your body’s reset button, but a state of constant stress can fatigue the heart and compromise our ability to reset, leading to inflammation, infections, toxicity, and heart disease.

By returning your heart to balance, you support the cardiovascular and circulatory system; regenerate the structure of your heart, and help reset the homeostatic mechanism for your entire body. Heart™ is formulated with powerful calming oils, including Jasmine, an oil found to be as calming as the anti-anxiety drug valium, according to a 2010 study.  Jasmine also has a mildly sedative and calming effect allowing it to alleviate anxious thoughts, relieve stress, and ease depression.  Jasmine oil actually stimulates the brain, helping to uplift the mood, and promoting feelings of self-confidence and optimism.

Heart™  blend also contains Neroli which is also known to soothe anxiety and frantic thoughts calm negative emotional responses and support optimism.

Apply Heart™ over your heart (left side of the chest) to balance the heart and support, integrate, and reset all the systems of the body, including mental clarity, physical health, and emotional balance. Heart™ blend also supports feelings of open-heartedness, expansiveness, and receptivity while mitigating loneliness, sadness, and grief.

As you take a deep breath and breathe in Heart™, try to breathe in the deep sense of worthiness and allow yourself to receive love and praise.  As you slowly exhale, allow your breath to carry out any patterns of low self-worth or self-limiting beliefs to write in a gratitude journal that shows increased optimism.

Parasympathetic®

Parasympathetic® calms your nervous system and helps you be present in the moment, to both your own body and to your mental, emotional, and physical needs.

This blend of clove and lime essential oils helps energize your physical body and mental capacity, helping to support the brain to embrace optimism and hope.

Your sympathetic “fight or flight” state turns on when survival and safety are threatened.  When you are stuck in a cycle of sympathetic dominance – and not activating your parasympathetic nervous system –  your body’s alert mechanism for survival remains on high and you can become trapped in a perception that you are not safe, which lays the groundwork for pessimism and negative thinking.

The parasympathetic system restores a sense of safety and balance which calms the brain and the body by activating your parasympathetic nervous system to help you identify and support your own needs.  The research found that – when stimulated, your vagus nerve releases anti-anxiety chemicals that help you focus on positive emotions, decrease mental distress, and improve mental well-being. 

Parasympathetic can help you develop learned optimism by thinking about your reactions to adversity in a new way and consciously challenging negative self-talk. This learned optimism involves cognitive restructuring, where you can help yourself and others become more optimistic by consciously challenging negative, self-limiting thinking and replacing it with more optimistic thought patterns.

When you do not feel safe envisioning a positive outcome, you might activate what is known as a freeze response of your nervous system – also known as disassociation so that you don’t feel pain.  This often includes a disconnection to your sense of smell.  Smelling essential oils, like Parasympathetic®can help thaw the freeze response and restore your ability to sense your environment and feel safe in it.  This sense of embodiment and safety may help allow you to better feel engaged, attentive, and present in the moment, which may help you avoid worrying about future events and things that are outside of your control.

Apply Parasympathetic® over the vagus nerve (behind the earlobe on the mastoid bone) to activate the vagus nerve.  This helps discharge energy and shift out of the frozen state into the healing parasympathetic.

READ THIS NEXT: Releasing the Freeze Response with Essential Oils

Inhaling essential oils is the fastest and most efficient way to reset the volume of threat perception and help calm the over-firing of your limbic system.

This is because smell can access the limbic system of the brain to lower limbic system activation which then enables your body to enter the parasympathetic “rest, digest, and repair” state.

Your sense of smell is key to survival! The smell is often the first warning of safety or danger.  For this reason, your sense of smell has direct anatomical and functional access to the amygdala in the limbic lobe of the brain which is physically located near the olfactory bulb.

In fact, on a physical level, only two synapses separate your amygdala from your olfactory nerve.  No other sensory system has this kind of direct and intense contact with the neural substrates of your brain’s emotional control center.  Your other four senses, including sound, sight, taste, and touch must travel to other regions of the brain first, before reaching your limbic system.

Smell travels through your olfactory system to your hypothalamus by way of your amygdala.  When you smell an essential oil, it stimulates your hypothalamus to release hormones that trigger a rapid emotional response, directly impacting how you feel and how you function.

Limbic Reset™ contains a proprietary blend of essential oils designed to calm threat arousal and send safety queues to help reset your limbic system and support healthy emotional regulation. Limbic Reset™ was specifically formulated with essential oils such as Frankincense and Sandalwood that contain the chemical constituent Sesquiterpenes, which are thought to help to increase the oxygen in the limbic system which in turn “unlocks” the DNA and allow emotional baggage to be released from cellular memory.

The citrus oils contained in. Limbic Reset™ helps to lift your mood and clear your energy so that you do not take on or carry negative emotions or a pessimistic mindset for others.  For example, Melissa is known as an antidepressant that possesses uplifting and emotional balancing compounds.

Limbic Reset™ also contains Helichrysum oils which are touted for brain function and known to cross the blood-brain barrier and carry oxygen to the limbic system to help rewire neural circuits in your limbic system and calm an over-active stress response.



Season 4, Episode 16: Lymphatic Drainage 101 with Desiree De Spong

Jodi Cohen: Hello and welcome to Essential Alchemy. Alchemy is defined as the power or process that changes or transforms something in a mysterious or impressive way. My hope is that the information in this podcast can help you transform your mood, your energy, and physical health, or even connect some dots to help you shift your mental or emotional state. I’m your host, Jodi Cohen, a bestselling author, award-winning journalist, functional practitioner, lifelong learner, and founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, a company that sells proprietary blends of high-quality, organic, or wildcrafted essential oil remedies designed to help you return to your ideal mental, physical and emotional state. You can find out more about me and my company at vibrantblueoils.com. And with that, let’s get started with today’s episode.

Hello, I’m Jodi Cohen, your host, and I’m so excited to be joined by my fellow Lymph and fascia enthusiast, Desiree De Spong. She’s the founder and CEO of Model Health stands at the forefront of lymphatic therapy and has created two amazing at Home Tools, an orb and a flow vibrate that can really help you kind of integrate your practice at home. So welcome. Thank you for joining me.

Desiree De Spong: Thanks Jodi. It’s a pleasure to be here.

Jodi Cohen: So tell me a little bit about how you got into this, how you started developing your at home tools, what really prompted this brilliant business?

Desiree De Spong: So 20 years in the industry, I had been a lymphatic therapist but also a teacher. So I was teaching in the US and here in New Zealand and Australia and I think it just as part of being a clinician, you identify where the gaps are and so it became more about developing product or technology that could fill that gap. So for example, our main point of sale is a practitioner-only product called Rezo, which is a compression device and that was due to manual lymphatic drainage. It’s very time spent. It can be costly and it’s quite hard to get a really good practitioner and especially in your location it’s you can be traveling hours. So this has filled a gap in clinics where they can now offer a therapy that’s consistently the same and gets the same outcomes. But recognizing that we also had gaps in our suits.

So for example, and for obvious reasons, I can’t put compression around your throat, so we wanted to adapt a product and especially now with the insight of the glymphatic and knowing that we do have a lymph in the brain that needs to be managed. There was the developer, the flow vibrate, but where the benefits have come in as people are getting rid of the puff in their face and they’re seeing changes to jaw pain.

Desiree De Spong: Dr. Christine Schaff an example, uses it for the vagus nerve. So we started to see other uses and then the other key one that was missing in the suit therapy was in the armpits. Now I’ve been working in breast cancer for 20 years. I still speak for a lymphedema group every other month and it is an area that I’ve got a lot of passion around needing women to improve their overall breast health. So this was one that you could put into your armpits, but we also added in an oscillation and vibration so that we could work with fascia as well because we know how the impact of that can have on your body if it’s rigid and not creating flow.

Jodi Cohen: Do you want to show your device and just give people a quick overview of how you recommend people use it and the benefits?

Desiree De Spong: Certainly. So this is your flow vibrate and Yes, when I developed it, people kind of made the comment that it looked kind of like something else that was used, and trust me, it was not the reasoning behind it. It was when I used rapid release technology for example and I’ve been using that in clinic for a very long time and saw the advantages to using vibration, but that tool is phenomenal but really noisy and quite cumbersome to deal with. So it was all about creating micro pulsations around, sorry, the face area, oh, hang on, I can never get this camera right there we go around so that what you’re trying to do is drain and the head is designed to get around the contour of through the neck and then there’s a whole sequence of under the face you want to be able to get through all the different drainage points.

Sinus, it’s really good for the sinus and it’s been able to be great for the headaches congestion in the brain fog, it has three vibrations, so basically a mild medium, large, so it’s a higher strength and so the light one, we’re putting more around the face. We don’t want to be putting too much vibration. We want to create little pulsations, improve the collagen blood flow, everything that’s going on. But as we go into other areas when we use it in the body for example, you may want to do it down, there’s a group of lymph nodes that run down from above the collarbone down into the armpit. We would use them there. You can also use this in the armpit as well. It can be used on the abdomen. There are lots of different ways that you can use the flow vibrate by increasing the vibration.

So that was the one that was developed for the face. The orb came about my own frustration, A thinking about the axilla, but B, the pressure points when you get that point that you just can’t get anything through and most balls are quite large and they’re really hard to lie on. So this is only a seven-inch-sized ball, but I wanted the oscillation because to me it’s about breaking out vibration to create a stimulus so fantastic for lymphatics and getting fluid moving. So it can be operated very similarly, not so much around the face but in the other areas of the body like you would the flow vibrate.

Desiree De Spong: But the flow orb is more designed to try and break out fascial scar tissue because you can either lean on it so you can up against the wall and get into that knot in the back of your shoulder.

It can be maneuvered up and down, so across the chest wall. So you’re just rolling it great for releasing the diaphragm and we have videos up on YouTube on how to do this and so then, but one of the things or there’s a few things that have come out of this since we’ve launched it, arthritis, the elderly are noticing a significant change by just holding it in their hands where plantar fasciitis, so in the feet that just rolling it under that bridge of the foot is starting to break up that and I got to use it firsthand. I achieved a break my ankle not that long ago and so I got this fasciitis, sorry, in my, sorry that’s how we say it in New Zealand. I was able to break that up with this pelvic hypertonic, really tight pelvic area. We had one of the most amazing feedbacks we’ve had and we subsequently got more is a woman of 20 years of incontinence and pelvic pain due to surgeries having a baby and issues relating to female stuff.

And she had used it for 20 minutes on either side of her sit bones and then she had just come back to report for the first time that afternoon. She had no issue with her pad like it was dry and she had no pain. She’s gone on to use it every day for a month has no pain now and is not incontinent any longer. So that’s when we know you are shifting. I’m also a big believer that we sit too much and of course, we’re building up fluid in the pelvic basin and we’re building up rigidity in that area. So to be able to maneuver that abdominal fluid, lower pelvic fluid can not have benefits for women in their health and men. So the thistle has become quite a hit for us because, and I do believe it’s because it’s got the oscillation and it is one of those tools that you go and lean into it and it’s quite strong. You can feel the vibration in the floor for example, but you’re just going, oh yeah, oh that’s good. And that’s where we are seeing huge results.

Jodi Cohen: When I love that you have kind of the one-two punch so to speak because one of the things that alluded to me, you mentioned kind of a lymph under the arm for me it was really tight fascia in the back that was kind of locking the lymph and preventing drainage. So if you can talk a little bit about the interplay between fascia and lymph and how both of these tools, I mean I think this is something everyone needs at home.

Desiree De Spong: So there’s an old saying structure equals function, right? For example, if your back is out of alignment, you talk to any osteo or any chiropractor, and they’ll talk about how the lymph is impeded and fascia is all about the glide, about the movement, about the fluidity, and those two interplay the lymphatics. So they literally are interlinked. So if the fascia is rigid and there’s no movement, the lymphatics aren’t going to drain.

Desiree De Spong: If the body is so toxic and full of much fluid, it’s creating a real swelling and then pushing against the fascia, it’s going to impact on how the fascia again moves. So we know when you’re really swollen it’s hard to move, it’s putting pressure on the muscle, your body can’t actually maneuver it out. And a lot of people, especially with lower edema, so when it comes to the back, if you are holding tension, you are holding lymph.

It’s quite simple. It’s not rocket science to me, but it seems to for some reason we forget to keep it simple. I think that’s my issue. And so if the vertebrae is out or the fascia is tight, especially in around the shoulder area, we do a lot of sitting again and we are moving and hunching over which diminishes our breath, which is then not the deep diaphragmatic, which means you’re not moving the fluid through the chest wall. We have to breathe. I mean I don’t know if you remember that old thing we used to say I must increase my bust, but the technique of doing that was pumping through the chest wall to get the fluid up through, especially through the thoracic duct, but to get the chest wall moving because breast tissue, especially the female has no muscle. So you are relying on that movement and breath to be able to get the fluid to move. So if we’re more hunched over, we’re getting more restriction in our fascia in our back, especially around there’s a group of nodes around the back of the arm called subscapula and they have played an interplay with when you start getting that real overflow of fluid through here or up in the back of the arms, it’s usually because the subscap is so tight and the fluid is now pooling and around those lymph nodes.

Jodi Cohen: Yes, I definitely experience that and notice a lot of people. Can you walk us through what your recommended ritual is or what you do every day so that when people get this they kind of have a starting point do you start with the clavicles or how do you advise people to get started?

Desiree De Spong: So my thing with flow vibrate is my thing is to do it in the morning. You always, no matter what you try to do, you wake up with a bit of puff, right? So for my thing is like my flow vibrates my morning routine. I’m on either a vibration plate or I’m doing something where I’m sitting here and draining. You usually always start left side because all your lymphatic fluid ends up on the left side. So you obviously go what we call proximal to distal, which means that we want to open up the gateways or open up the dam sites to be able to draw fluid in. So for example, I’d be going from here down my neck into it, there’s a big group of nodes here, but there’s one called the jugular digastric, which is kind of the big center point of all drainage and then you’re coming in under the chin and then you’re coming down through the actual, this is hard to do in front of a video and down through the face here because actually there’s a group of lymph nodes down through here.

Desiree De Spong: So through this quadrant now there is what we call a watershed in the face means that this quadrant here comes down through here, the wrist drains out. So you saw this is when you’re sweeping out, you can come in under the sinuses and the forehead. Now if you want to go down into the armpits, that’s when we’re coming through up through to here and then into the armpit and you can actually place it around on those subscap nodes, which is sort in the crevice at the back of the arm there. So if I show this area…

Jodi Cohen: Yeah, that’s where it was tight and what setting do you like it on the lowest setting for the face and then you on the face one?

Desiree De Spong: Yes, I tend to go one up to here and then I would go down into two and maybe even three into the armpit. It really comes down to one of the most important things about lymphatic drainage it’s not supposed to be hard. It’s not supposed to be intense because it sits just under the skin, 75% of your surface lymphatics are just under the skin. So it’s about creating the little pulsations to get those lymphatic vessels to literally open close and pump the fluid through. So it’s not about pushing this so hard that it bends on this like this. You want it just to glide and that will create, but slowly it’s not about 20 times. I’d rather you do two really slow techniques and then that way you get that vibration having its greatest impact under the skin.

That’s what we recommend with the flow, vibrate with the flow or this can be modified. I wouldn’t use it on the face. I think it’s a little bit intense for that, but where I would go is, so with the flow vibrate, you can start under the clavicle too. We do have nodes here, but you can just, all you’re doing is rolling them under your hand. It’s not meant to be high-pressure. I don’t want it to hurt. I want you to go, oh yeah, you know what? When you go like that, the body lets go and the fascia lets go. So you start to create momentum faster instead of being so used to let’s get the pain out really hard. I’m like, no, let’s create the glide and the movement. So it’s all about switching the hands and just creating this rock and roll across the body and you can come up and just hold in above in the termini area, so above the collarbone if you want, because we still want to open these pathways, but then we can be rolling up through here because a lot of people get lots of tension through the pec muscles.

We can be just holding it under the armpit so we can be just then placing it around the subscap and leaning. I mean the great thing is you can do this in front of a TV, it doesn’t have to be or you can be reading a book or watching a podcast or the good thing about this is you do not have to a vibration plate, you have to go and stand on it. You have to create change. The idea is to create regular daily care or self because that is the key to any progress in health is to put time aside for yourself.

Desiree De Spong: But sometimes we’re busy so it’s more or less thinking, well when could I combine that into just like I clean my teeth every day or I shower, how can I combine this into my day-to-day life? And as I said, there are YouTube videos to watch on how to do it for opening up the abdomen, using sorry, the diaphragm and then working on the abdomen. It can be great for knotting the small intestine because I find that a lot of people hold their tension there and if we can release that, we can also use it on the inside of our legs, which is where our inguinal nodes are. And then it can also be great as I said for the fascia. So if you want to roll it up and down your calves, if you want to be able to use it on your feet feels amazing at the base of the feet.

Jodi Cohen: And would you let pain, like you mentioned you hurt your ankle, if somebody has a sore knee or a twisted ankle, would you let pain be the guide? Like something’s tight in discomfort, like put it there?

Desiree De Spong: Yeah, when we first got the prototype, I had a colleague, who had had three knee surgeries, couldn’t get a full range of motion, couldn’t crotch right down and I just had him lay this under the back of the knee there’s a set of nodes called the popliteal and we just had it on us to try and break up on the second setting of this and then I just got him to use the flow vibrate up and around the knee cap just to see if we could get some momentum and afterward he did it for an hour afterward he got a full range of motion.

Jodi Cohen: I have to be honest, it’s funny, we went on an Italian vacation to Pano where I did more downstairs than I think I’ve done in 20 years. My knees were not happy. I started playing with my lymph and fascia oil. I can now do things with my knees that I haven’t done in years. So I’m super obsessed with the ball for hip mobility and things like that. This is amazing. I should ask, what do you think of combining essential oils or castor oil with your products and would you do it before or after? How would you do that?

Desiree De Spong: I would do it as part of the therapy. So now the great thing about the flow vibrate is you can, well to a certain degree submerge it, really wash it. You can actually water and all the rest because it’s silicone. This is silicone as well, but you can’t submerge it because there are certain little areas where you can open it up for where the screws are. But as long as you’ve got a good wet clean white that you can use afterwards, then definitely combining the two will make a significant difference as far as I’m concerned. But just think for this one, I would only be putting a mild bit on just to get that glide and then I’d put more on afterward. But this one you can easily put as much as you want on because it’s easy to claim this because it’s all in one.

Jodi Cohen: Amazing. And you recommended starting once a day. Do you think that’s enough to start to see an impact? Should people do it twice a day?

Desiree De Spong: Well, most people have reported once a day they do see an impact, but if you are dealing with an injury or you are dealing with something that’s quite chronic, then twice a day is going to make the most significant. I think again, always coming back to pain is your measure or discomfort because the one thing people aren’t always aware of is that when you work with fascia it has a ripple effect. So as I for example unleashed the fascia in my foot, then I started getting hip issues. Now the hip was because the hip had compensated for so long now I had to work with the hip and then the shoulder because of what they call anatomy trains of fascia or interlinked. So don’t think it’s created a new problem, it’s just an unraveling. And if we understand that then we kind of go, oh, okay, cool. Well, I’ve obviously dealt with that side of the issue, but guess this is where it all maybe started from and then you work with that. So it’s all about breaking it down to recognizing that it’s not just going to be one area, there may be two or three that you have to work with once when you are working specifically with fascia.

Jodi Cohen: That’s actually a really valid point. I have heard death starts in the feet, so feet are a good area to start. I’ve also heard the abdomen because of the shallow breathing. Do you have ideal starting points for unraveling fascia knowing that it will have a ripple effect?

Desiree De Spong: I come back to, I’m quite simplistic. I come back to whereas your pain point because what you’ve focused on, but it will create a ripple. So for me, it’s like let’s ease the pain and then observe where you are feeling the referral from that. So that tells you that’s another point that needs to be managed. And so you kind of unwrap it because the pain point is usually unless it’s been an injury like me breaking my ankle, the pain point is the end of the trail. So let’s work back through what happened because you find that can sometimes because you don’t always know how it started. So I mean definitely releasing the abdominal areas significantly and the feet, the feet will affect the neck when you release faster. So there is this interrelationship, but because it can get very complicated for at-home users, I personally simplify and just say, go to the pain point but observe where the ripple’s going because I suggest you do both.

Jodi Cohen: No, that’s great advice. Is there anything I haven’t asked you that you’d like to share?

Desiree De Spong: The only thing I would say is that we’ve seen a significant rise in lymphatic issues in the last four to five years, more so than normal. I think there are more environmental exposures, and I’m not just talking about environmental toxins, I’m talking about emotional environmental issues as well. And the one thing that we’ve learned about lymphatics is that if you don’t sleep well, your lymphatic system doesn’t work well. If you’re in a constant state of stress of some form, so a dysregulated autonomic nervous system where you’re feeling like you’re always in that little bit of fight-flight, then you’re never going to get that lymphatic system optimized.

Desiree De Spong: So for example, using your parasympathetic blend is phenomenal for downregulating, that stress reaction because that’s part of improving overall health is getting back into some sort of equilibrium, not what we did to adapt to what’s happened to us over the last few years. And then if we can get our body back going, we are safe, we’re okay, I mean get a hug as many hugs as you can a day, the research on that is phenomenal. And that’s what they say about flower preo. It’s like I’ve been wrapped up, loved, and hugged. It’s that the simple processes, learning to breathe differently, again, improving your abdominal breath, all of those things are going to play a massive impact not only on your overall health and wellbeing but if we are looking at lymphatics and fascia specifically significant.

Jodi Cohen: One of the things that you just mentioned was kind of emotional toxins. Do you want to speak to the issues in the tissues, how emotions get stuck in the fascia and the lymph, and if they’re congested, that emotions don’t leave and make us feel anxious or overwhelmed?

Desiree De Spong: Well, for us that’s been in the field with more of a diverse look at clinical care. And I mean by that we’ve looked at the Sun New Zealand, we have this model, the Tari Taha model, which is four pillars to your health, which are mind, body, spirit, and Hanau. Hanau is family to us, and it’s not necessarily your biological family, it’s the people that you surround yourself with. Are they uplifting or are they bringing you down and are they providing you that support and love you need or are they critical and always making your life hard? So those four factors are really important for recovery and health. So emotional, I mean the Joe Depen of the world has taught us we are what we think. Right? The great thing is we’ve got plenty of science now to back this, which I think is fantastic as a practitioner that not just, we use the expression woo woo, I’m not just saying stuff, but emotions.

So for example, with lymphatics, your Louise Hay for example would say, what are you holding onto? What are you not letting go of? And so the weight is a big part of that. That can be a protection. A lot of weight issues I see are fluid issues. They’re not the actual weight, it’s to do with the way the lymphatic system’s functioning, but more importantly what they’re holding onto. So creating a barrier of support. So for me, emotions play a massive part. We know that both the fascia and the lymphatics, it’s a little bit of a chicken and an egg. Is it sitting in the fascia or is it sitting in the lymph? There’s a little bit of argument depending on whose side you are on which system you tend to study more, but it doesn’t matter at the end of the day, they know cells hold memories.

Desiree De Spong: We know, I mean I’ve been doing this amazing study in the last eight weeks on the relationship to intergenerational trauma and how that all comes through us on a cellular level and how our behavior is influenced even by our granddad or our great granddad because the learning mechanisms that have come through. So you know that every experience you have has had some impact on you and whether you hold that in the tissues then impacts on how you

recover or how your health and wellbeing is. So for me, letting go of your fluids and creating that movement back in the fascia is what helps you just let go of what no longer serves you.

Jodi Cohen: And to that point, I’ve noticed that when I’m less rigid in my fascia, I’m less rigid in my life. It doesn’t matter where I sit in the restaurant or the movie theater, it doesn’t matter. I got gluten the other day and I was like…

Desiree De Spong: Take down with the flow rather than, yeah.

Jodi Cohen: Well this was wonderful. Can you please share where people can find your products and find your videos?

Desiree De Spong: Yeah, so we have a website is dub dub dot flow, so that’s P-R-E-S-S-O-U-S a.com (flowpressousa.com) and you’ll find our products on there. And then we also have a YouTube that says Flow Preso, so flow we know it, and then the P-R-E-S-S-O, and they can see the videos on Flow Vibrate and flow orb and how to use them. And yeah, we have a pretty good setup there and lots of information you can obtain. So the idea is to really get people to, well, my thing has always been to support people to look after self and we know it’s a challenge, even us as practitioners, it’s a day-to-day reality of reminding yourself to take care of self. So the idea of these products is to simplify it so that we can have people in their flow.

Jodi Cohen: I love that and I love that you have kind of home care if they want to try the Flow Presso device. Can they find a practitioner near them on that site too?

Desiree De Spong: Correct, yes. There’s a location map you just put in your area and then it’ll come up. Sometimes we are putting them up every day, so just bear with us or connect with us because sometimes we’ve found that we can, in New Zealand, we’re just such a little country, but in the US it could be easier to go overstate to another clinic. It might be an hour as opposed to instate. It’s two hours. So you can contact us as well and we’ll ensure that we give you any information we have.

Jodi Cohen: This was so helpful. Thank you for your generosity of time. Thank you for these beautiful products, just giving people a way to help themselves. This is really my pleasure.

Desiree De Spong: Thank you. Thank you for having me. It was wonderful and I certainly love your product, so I think the combination would be incredible.

Jodi Cohen: Yeah, I think it’s really powerful, and especially I love that you have both the fascia, the lymph, and the home facelift. That’s amazing too.

Desiree De Spong: We all need that, right?

Jodi Cohen: At a certain age. Yeah, it seems like we do.

Thank you so much for listening. I hope this podcast empowered you with some useful information and takeaways. If you liked this episode, please consider sharing a positive review or subscribing. I would also love to offer you my free parasympathetic toolkit as a gift just for listening. It will teach you how to activate the most important nerve in your body to turn on your ability to heal. This free toolkit includes a checklist, a video, and a detailed guide. If this podcast prompted any questions, you can always find answers at my blog at vibrantblueoils.com or my book Essential Oils to Boost the Brain and Heal the Body. Until next time, wishing you vibrant Health.



The Benefit of Applying Essential Oils to the Feet

I have long heralded the feet as the best point for the topical application of essential oils as topically applying essential oils to the feet can help improve systemic circulation, stimulate muscles, reduce tension, and ease pain throughout the entire body.

Oils absorb faster through the feet as the pores on the bottom of your feet are the largest on your body, making them particularly absorbent as they can quickly pull the essential oils into the bloodstream.  

When essential oils are applied to the feet, traces of the oil can be found throughout the entire body in less than 20 minutes, according to research on the chemical constituents of Lavender essential oil. The book Clinical Aromatherapy also found that essential oils rubbed on the feet affected the autonomic nervous system within minutes.

Your feet are also free from hair follicles – which produce sebum oil that lubricates your skin and acts as a barrier that can hinder or slow down the application or absorption of the essential oil.

The skin on your feet is also thicker and much less sensitive to “hot” oils (More Here) than other areas of your body, making it safer to be applied safely and directly without dilution and less likely to trigger an adverse reaction. This means that many people who might experience irritation when they apply certain essential oils to other parts of their body often don’t have any issues when they apply the same oils to their feet. The lower sensitivity of the skin on your soles means you can often apply essential oils undiluted. It also makes a great location to apply “hot” oils like Breathe or Immune Support, which can sometimes cause issues for people elsewhere.

What’s more, essential oils can easily be applied to the feet and covered with socks if you don’t like the smell of the oil.

Essential oils are lipophilic (fat-soluble) and comprised of super small molecules that easily penetrate your skin for easy absorption into the bloodstream.  As an extremity, your feet are located furthest from your heart, making it more difficult to receive healing remedies, especially if circulation is challenging.  For example, cold tingly toes, plantar fasciitis, heel spurs, hammer toes, and fallen arches are examples of poor blood flow to the feet, which can impact your posture, and how you move, sit, and stand.

Topically applied essential oils impact the feet immediately and directly as well as allowing the physical, mental, and emotional benefits of the essential oils to reach multiple organs, systems, and areas of your body that are in need of support.

Your feet are literally the foundation of your body – playing an intricate role in every part of the body from alignment to health.   Your feet play host to 26 bones, 33 joints, and more than 100 muscles, tendons, and ligaments in each foot, the health of our feet matters A LOT to our overall health.

If your feet as the foundation of your body are off, it throws everything upstream – throwing the rest of the body out of alignment.

Foot reflexology is a form of massage therapy that involves applying pressure to specific points on the foot that are believed to be correlated to other organ systems and regions of the body.

Your feet have around 72,000 nerve endings each – more nerve endings per square centimeter than any other part of your body – and it is believed that every nerve line in the body ends in your feet. 

Traditional Chinese Medicine focuses on healing through the movement of energy along meridian lines.  It’s believed that when pressure is applied to reflex points along the meridian, the health of the area of the body that corresponds to each point is affected.  To this end, it is believed that applying essential oils to specific points on your feet may have a beneficial effect on specific organ systems.

You can find a detailed foot chart to help with oil application here.

Every organ and system in your body is connected through meridians of energy that end in your feet, hands, ears, and face. It is hypothesized that energy can become blocked and foot reflexology can clear the path for better communication between the organs and the rest of the body’s energy fields.

Research backs this up, with a study finding that ear, hand, and foot reflexology resulted in “a significantly greater decrease in premenstrual symptoms for the women given true reflexology treatment than for the women in the placebo group.”

Another study used foot reflexology to treat patients with breast and lung cancer and noted a marked decrease in both anxiety and pain. 

Research on Perspectives on Reflexology maintains that putting pressure on points in the foot during reflexology can help break up lactic acid crystals that stop energy flow.

In most reflexology systems, the big toe represents the brain and head. The next two toes represent the eyes, and the next two toes represent the ears. The top third of the sole is our chest, the mid-third is our stomach and digestive system.

Essential oils can be topically applied to the soles of your feet and between toes to create some space between those joints and help bring the body into balance.  For example, you can roll essential oils on the bottom of your feet to improve blood flow and mobility. Massaging the feet also improves circulation, stimulates muscles, reduces tension, and may ease pain.

Fascia is the band of thin, fibrous connective tissue that wraps around and supports every structure in your body, including the feet and the toes.  Fascia twists and turns from the feet up the body, helping to support the arch of the foot and playing an important role in normal foot mechanics during walking. 

When your fascia is healthy, it’s flexible and stretches with you. When your fascia tightens up, it can restrict movement and pull you out of alignment. Patterns in your fascia develop to compensate for the way you walk and stand. These facial misalignments can contribute to gait issues, including pronating, supinating, foot issues like bunions or even ankle instability.  These misalignments can impact everything up the chain.

My friend, Deanna Hansen who founded Block Therapy notes that “in all positions, you should be aware of your pinky toe as it needs to engage in all actions to ground the body and create the proper support so you can fully activate the core…a lack of connection diminishes the energy that would otherwise be available to the body to add support challenging positions, and without their involvement, create a heaviness in the body that is forced to be supported by other postural muscles.”

Helping to release fascial adhesions may help strengthen proper alignment and help unwind the challenges responsible for creating adhesions in your fascia and blocking your energy flow

Fascia can help with functional movement by reducing friction between structures. The collagen that makes up fascia is organized in a wavy pattern. Healthy fascia layers are flexible and can slide over one another. When pulled, these lines of tissue resist tensile and shear loads, helping to keep your feet and body parts together.

Stress and tension can limit flexibility and the fascia can become matted and form hardened areas, called adhesions. Fascial adhesions or hardened and adhered fascia – which can no longer slide smoothly – lead to restricted movement and back pain, especially if the fascia becomes so thick that nerves constrict. Fascial compartments may also become tight and not allow for normal movement of lymph and blood into and out of the compartment, contributing to pain and swelling.

As you may know, fascia lies just below the skin, so topically applying essential oils to the skin allows for easy and immediate access to the fascia. The skin is your largest organ and is relatively permeable to fat-soluble substances like essential oils that can permeate the tissue and may help release adhesions and fascial restriction, increase circulation, and decrease swelling in the tissue around the feet.

The essential oils in the Fascia Release™ blend are uniquely formulated to unravel deeply held tensions, constrictions, and energetic blockages in your tissues to reduce pain, improve blood and lymphatic circulation, and release fear, repressed emotions, and tension held in the body (organs, muscles, tendons, bones, and joints) or the mind.

Fascia Release™ contains Lavender™ oil which possesses analgesic, anti-inflammatory, anti-convulsant, and antispasmodic properties, making it a great choice for calming pain. It is known to increase blood circulation, reduce inflammation, and calm nervous tension and nerve pain. Lavender™ also helps to soothe other symptoms associated with physical injuries, such as headaches, migraines, nausea, and depression. 

Research backs this up, finding that applying Lavender™ oil topically for pain relief was just as effective as some pharmaceutical anti-inflammatories and analgesics. Research found that Lavender™ effectively reduced pain immediately after the treatment, and remained lowered at 1 week post-treatment. Lavender™ also helps calm anxiety and relieve nervous tension to make pain from the injury more manageable. Inhaling lavender also had a morphine-like effect in patients recovering from surgery. The study also found that lavender was effective in reducing migraine pain and relieving lower back pain and neck pain.

Fascia Release™ blend can be topically applied to the soles of your feet and between toes to create some space in between those joints and help bring the body into balance.  For example, you can roll essential oils on the bottom of your feet to improve blood flow and release fascial adhesions.  Roll the Fascia Release™ on the back of the toes, then slide your fingers between your toes, pressing to the point of discomfort, and hold for three minutes.  This can undo the fascial holding pattern and tremendously help with your balance (be patient with this one, it could take some time to be able to fit your fingers between your toes!)

Topically applying the Anti-Inflammatory™ blend to the bottom of the feet before bed can calm inflammation in the body and the skin.  Users rave that it calms acne and other skin issues while you sleep.

Anti-Inflammatory™ is designed to reduce inflammation and encourage regeneration of damaged or stressed connective tissues. Anti-Inflammatory™ is especially helpful for calming inflammation in protective tissues around nerves, reducing the inflammatory compression that contributes to nerve pain. Anti-Inflammatory™ contains Ylang-ylang which has healing properties that repair nerve damage.  

It also includes Frankincense™ which is known for its anti-inflammatory, analgesic, and sedative properties. Frankincense™ has been shown to improve the accurate transmission and communication of messages between the nerves and the brain. Incorrect sensory messages can result in nerve pain, so improving the accuracy of signals can eliminate pain.

The Journal of Ethnopharmacology in 2016 published a study showing how Frankincense™ has pain-reducing qualities. The oil works to block COX-2 (an enzyme connected with inflammation) and “exhibits significant anti-inflammatory and analgesic effects.”

In a 2003 study, patients with osteoarthritis knee pain were given either frankincense essential oil or a placebo. The group that was given the frankincense essential oil reported improved knee movement, better range of motion, increased ability to walk for longer distances, and an overall significant decrease in knee pain.

Anti-Inflammatory™ also contains ginger, an excellent antioxidant that helps reduce inflammation and kill bacteria to heal infectious areas. Ginger oil is a rubefacient which means it is warming in nature, which helps dilate your capillaries and increase blood circulation.

It’s particularly good for chronic joint pain, stiff muscles, and tendons and ligaments that need softening. Ginger works by directly inhibiting vanilloid receptors to soothe nerve pain, increase blood flow, bring down inflammation, and relieve achy types of pain when applied topically. Apply 2-3 drops of Anti-Inflammatory™ to the bottom of the feet before bed.

Circulation™ helps support the delivery of oxygen and nutrient-rich blood to the site of injury to help speed healing and pain relief.  Formulated to support healthy circulation to deliver oxygen and nutrient-rich blood to the body and the brain, while simultaneously carrying toxins and waste away from the cells to be eliminated, the Circulation™ blend may help open the vasculature to allow for optimal blood flow to both carry healing oxygen and nutrients to cells and allow a painful and inflamed area to heal faster.

Circulation™ contains powerful oils known to support bone repair, including Cypress oil which is an anti-spasmodic known to improve circulation and reduce fatigue and stress. Similarly, Nutmeg oil soothes pain, and research has proven its anti-inflammatory properties in reducing pain and swelling.

Black pepper is known as one of the best oils for alleviating deep tissue pain by warming muscles and increasing blood flow to the injury while reducing inflammation and pain. Black Pepper in combination with ginger essential oil in the Circulation™ blend helps enhance circulation, reduces inflammation, and blocks pain. The heat of these oils is known to speed up the healing process. Apply 2-3 drops of Circulation™ on the bottom of the feet or around the ankles to help increase blood flow.



Season 4, Episode 15: Limbic System Reset with Cathleen King

Jodi Cohen: Hello and welcome to Essential Alchemy. Alchemy is defined as the power or process that changes or transforms something in a mysterious or impressive way. My hope is that the information in this podcast can help you transform your mood, energy, physical health, or even some dots to help you shift your mental or emotional state. I’m your host, Jodi Cohen, a bestselling author, award-winning journalist, functional practitioner, lifelong learner, and founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, a company that sells proprietary blends of high-quality, organic, or wildcrafted essential oil remedies designed to help you return to your ideal mental, physical, and emotional state. You can find out more about me and my company at vibrantblueoils.com. And with that, let’s get started with today’s episode.

I’m so excited to share one of my favorite new finds. Dr. Cathleen King is the founder and CEO of Primal Trust Academy and community, which weaves together brain retraining, vagus nerve toning, somatic movement, and trauma-informed attachment repair techniques in an online worldwide platform that is unbelievably accessible, unbelievably brilliant, and so helpful. She was trained as a physical therapist with a passion for teaching neuroscience-based practices, targeting the brain and the nervous system. Her focus is to help people with self-healing from chronic illness and trauma patterns, and I will throw in autoimmunity, anxiety, and depression. I think that your platform is so accessible and so helpful for everyone. So thank you so much and thank you for taking the time to spend with us.

Cathleen King: Thanks for having me.

Jodi Cohen: So we were talking a little bit before we started filming about, I’m obsessed with vagus nerve toning, but there’s more to the puzzle. So can you lay out limbic impairment and cell danger response, I mean, big topic, but the variables that are throwing people off?

Cathleen King: Yeah, absolutely. So we have a nervous system, an autonomic nervous system, and a lot of things are influencing that nervous system. So if you want to self-regulate your biology or improve your health, you want to target the thing that’s causing a lot of the issues that you might have. And our nervous system innervates every cell, and every organ of our body. So it’s a big system and we have our brain, and in our brain, we have our limbic system, which is our emotional center.

Cathleen King: That emotional center is constantly looking for threats and making associations based on the past or what it thinks might happen in the future. So one of the things that we do is something called brain retraining where we teach our limbic system to dial down that threat response or turn down the volume of fear and vigilance. And the cool thing is that you really can biohack your own limbic system.

You can turn down anxiety and threats and fears and even overreactions to foods and chemicals and things like that through doing limbic system retraining. Now we also have our vagus nerve, which runs from our brain all the way through our body and through lots of organs of our body. It’s this, it’s also called the wandering nerve because it runs everywhere and some people even call it the master control switch of our health, meaning when our vagus nerve is operating optimally, we’re going to have good health. When the vagus nerve might be under operating, our health might start to decline because the vagus nerve is responsible for putting your autonomic nervous system to rest and digest and repair. So just think about if this switch isn’t working very well, it might be hard to go into rest, digest, and repair. Or sometimes when you’re so stressed, the vagus nerve gets super activated and just throws your whole body into shutdown or dorsal vagal, meaning we don’t have energy for anything and it’s just like an emergency break of the system.

So learning how to target your vagus nerve with different exercises is going to help your whole nervous system have more flexibility and handle stress. It’s going to improve your digestion, your detoxification, your organ function, and it’s just super important. And the whole thing is tied together. You use the term cell danger response, that’s a term that was coined by Robert Navio, and I think he’s a brilliant man who’s really describing what I think the future paradigm of what health will be looked at as we are starting to all get on board with his theory. And it was a theory that I learned several years ago, and to me, it was like this is the lens of how healing happens by understanding the theory behind the cell danger response, because that theory really points to the necessity of targeting the autonomic nervous system in order to self-heal from most conditions actually targeting the autonomic nervous system.

What he’s saying in this theory is that your cells are always kind of looking out for is there pathogens or toxins. And if they sense a threat, there is an innate mechanism of the cell to close down, to harden up and to protect against those pathogens and toxins so that the cell isn’t destroyed. So when you get exposed to a virus, a pathogen, a bacteria, toxins, things like that, even a physical injury, the cell goes into a cell danger response, which is a good thing. It’s protecting itself. The deal as this theory describes that some people don’t come out of cell danger response when they should or when the threat has passed. And if you don’t come out of cell danger response because your nervous system is still thinking that you’re under threat, then you’re going to stop detoxifying as well. #

Cathleen King: You’re not going to absorb nutrients as well. Your immune system gets dysregulated and you can end up very, very sick. The approach that I take with the limbic system, the vagus nerve, and even the somatic nervous system work, is to help the cells move out of cell danger response so that we can move back into thriving and repair. That was a very long-winded answer, but that is the science in a nutshell.

Jodi Cohen: Was elegant and what really hit my heart was this idea we all think we have Lyme or autoimmune or mold or whatever it is. We have all these different diagnoses and we think that that’s what’s going on. But the root cause of all of them is that our body is not responding to the threat the right way. Theoretically, if our nervous system is regulated, if our limbic system is regulated, and if our cells are able to get out of cell danger response, it’s like the three little pigs. It’s not that the bad wolf is so powerful, it’s that the house was made of straw. The root of kind of making sure that we’re all resilient and able to handle the winds of life is making sure that our own internal responses are in the right gear.

Cathleen King: Yes, yes. Just yesterday I was talking with a man who does live blood cell analysis and he was showing me what happens in cell danger response live with blood. And it was fascinating because you could see these certain cells that literally looked like ghost cells. They were just hardened and not doing anything. And of course, not all of them were that way, but some of them were. And then there was this neutrophil on the slide with these bacteria around it. The neutrophil is your immune system, part of your immune system, and it was just sitting there doing nothing, absolutely nothing, letting the bacteria move all over. And he is like, this body is not responding appropriately to the bacteria in the body. And so here’s the challenge. He’s like so many people get these lab tests and they’re like, oh, you’ve got Lyme, Bartonella, Baia, et cetera, and we need to kill it.

Well, yes, herbs and supplements help, but if your immune system is just sitting there going, don’t really know what to do right now, you’re only going to get so far. And so he says instead, this is why getting that immune system out of cell danger response, cleaning up the things that also helped that are contributing to that immune system kind of going dormant like molds and things like that, that can really affect the immune response, helping your own innate immune system to open up and to see it’s time to take care of business. And that’s what the nervous system works to help the immune system do.

Jodi Cohen: And what you’re really doing is going upstream, right? Downstream is kind of all these presentations of symptoms and diseases that we’ve classified, but upstream is really why are you not able to respond to this? And for people who are listening, those could be symptoms like anxiety, overwhelm, fatigue, depression. It doesn’t necessarily need to.

Jodi Cohen: I think by the time they have this serious diagnosis, then they’re really invested in finding you. But there’s a lot of low-hanging fruit that happens before the tipping point where it’s too much. I mean, I just really feel like everyone needs these tools.

Cathleen King: I agree. I agree. I mean, we are all living in a very toxic world and a very stressful, world full of stress. Our food is not clean. We lack minerals, we’re lacking nutrition, and our nervous system needs all the help it can get to stay optimized to even maintain basic healthy functions.

Jodi Cohen: And I love the way you kind of unpack it. Can you talk a little bit about the polyvagal ladder so people kind of know where they’re at then some of the tools that you use to just get it really is climbing up a ladder health.

Cathleen King: So the polyvagal theory was coined by Steven Porges and it’s an incredible understanding of the different states of our nervous system response. And he describes three different states of the nervous system that we are primarily in. The first state he calls ventral vagal and think about a ladder, and at the top of the ladder would be your ventral vagal state, and that is the state where you are interested in connection, you feel safe, you’re feeling like getting out in the world, your face shows that you are safe, happy, content, et cetera. So that’s at the top of the ladder. So we’re going to use the ladder as a metaphor. And then the next state he calls sympathetic, which is in the middle of the ladder, and the sympathetic state is your go button. So the gas is on, you’re going to go, maybe you’re motivated and excited, but it can also turn into anxiety and anger and running and fighting. So it’s movement and that is a normal state of the nervous system in certain situations. And then at the bottom of the ladder is a state called dorsal vagal, which can look like absolute collapse, shut down freeze, which is sort of a mixture of sympathetic and dorsal vagal where you’re just not able to move your tired. Maybe you are afraid and you’re just so shut down that you don’t even know how to get into life. It can be overwhelming, depression. So that’s at the bottom of the ladder.

Jodi Cohen: Lack of motivation for me.

Cathleen King: Yes lack of motivation.

Jodi Cohen: Scrolling seems like a good idea and you’re like, where did that hour go?

Cathleen King: Where exactly? Dissociating, spawning, and people-pleasing can even sort of be in that stage. And so these are different stages of your nervous system that it’s important to notice where am I on this ladder. Am I at the top of the ventral vagal? Am I in the middle with a lot of motion or am I at the bottom and starting to feel collapsed? And he describes that obviously ideally we want to be able to be in ventral vagal or if we’re going to be in a restful state, we’re feeling restful but safe. So we’re not always going. Sometimes we are just relaxing, but we feel safe. But the deal is in order to get to that top of the ladder, you have to climb up the ladder. And this is the hard part of nervous system work. When you move from that collapsed shutdown fatigue stay, and you want to come back up into safety, you’ve got to climb through the rungs of the ladder.

There’s no way around it. You’ve got to climb through it. And so sometimes nervous system regulation might make you feel more anxious. You might have a little insomnia, you might start feeling angry. All of the things that were in that part of your nervous system might open up and be felt as you start to climb up that ladder into safety as you’re doing nervous system work. So it’s a really great way of understanding the nervous system. There’s an author by the name of Deb Dana who explains this work even better in my opinion. She’s got some great books. If you’re interested in the polyvagal theory.

Jodi Cohen: One of the things that I really love about your program is that you really do teach people. You really educate upfront. I think a lot of people jump into things and they’re actually getting better, and so they get into sympathetic dominant, and there’s that fear response. I think that when you’ve suffered and you haven’t felt well if something kind of sets you back or you perceive it to set you back, you feel worse before you feel better. You get very afraid like, oh, this isn’t working. I’m doing it wrong. You speak to self-doubt. Can you speak to that a little bit just in kind of moving through the stages and the healing process?

Cathleen King: Yeah. So I found that after working with many people, a lot of people would basically sabotage their healing because they would start to do nervous system work and then they would get symptoms or different emotions and they would think, this isn’t working. I need to find a new program, a new tool, and a new coach. But what they didn’t understand is they were actually going through the normal process of nervous system regulation, which is sometimes to have an increase in sympathetic activity or an increase in detoxification symptoms and things like that. So in my program, I very clearly outline the stages of healing of what to expect. And I described the bumpy ride of healing, the bumpy ride of nervous system regulations so that when you hit those roadblocks, you understand why they’re there and you can trust the process because you’re using the tools and doing the work.

Cathleen King: And so when you hit that bump, that feels pretty tumultuous. You’re like, okay, this makes sense. I knew this would happen. My nervous system is starting to discharge things. My body’s starting to discharge things. Maybe your immune system is waking up and you start

getting all flu-like, which is normal. You want your immune system to wake up if it’s been shut down, but it doesn’t feel good. I do a lot of education to prepare people to handle the journey.

Jodi Cohen: No, I love that because I think forewarned is forearmed, right? So they know, oh yeah, you told me about this. It’s going to be okay. It feels safe.

Cathleen King: Right.

Jodi Cohen: I’m also curious as the queen of disassociation, I’m super good at not feeling the sematic exercises and actually having to be in my body. Can you talk a little bit about some of the protocols in the program, some of the things you recommend, and really the somatic experience and how that helps people feel safe and be in the why it’s important to be in the body?

Cathleen King: Yeah. A lot of us have a relationship where we think our therapy, where we think our process of healing and we think we’re doing it because we learn it, we can teach it, we get it mentally. And if you are a very mental person, dropping into the body and actually feeling the experience of healing is a whole different ball game that you might not even know how to do. And so the somatic portion of the program helps you to learn how to develop that relationship of feeling the feels of the body, getting in touch with your body’s needs, its urges, and honestly some of the trauma that’s stuck in there and the energy. So sometimes it doesn’t feel good to be in the body, and sometimes it does. You’re like, oh, I’m feeling this need, and that does feel good, or Oh, I actually feel like I want to rest and I’m going to give myself that need.

So it’s a process of learning how to mentally pay attention to what’s happening in the body and then your awareness becoming not just the mental thoughts, but the felt sense of being the human that you are, the felt sense of some of the personalities that are inside of you, whether it’s your pleaser, perfectionist protector, the feeling of that in the body and forming a relationship with the body so that you can honor the body and honor its needs. Because the truth is that a lot of our symptoms, are just decoys or alarm bells that are letting you know that deep in the body, you don’t feel okay, you feel unsafe. And so the brain comes up, the limbic system comes up with a way to get your attention, which might be pain or other sorts of symptoms, but underneath that pain is another alarm.

Cathleen King: There’s another alarm that was never felt and recognized probably because at the time it was created, you couldn’t handle it. You were too young to process it. So underneath that pain might be anger, it might be intense grief, things like that. And so we want to get in touch with our feelings so that we can feel what’s at the root of what’s been driving our limbic system in distress, what’s been driving our perfectionism, what’s been driving our workaholism. There’s a feeling in there of not okayness that we need to get in touch with and hold space for so that it can discharge out of the body and we don’t have to do these dysfunctional coping patterns to handle them anymore.

Jodi Cohen: Oh my gosh, that was so brilliant and so much to unpack. One thing I thought you were describing to me, it’s much safer to be in my head. I think that Shakespeare has a quote, life is a comedy to those who think and a tragedy to those who feel. So I try not to feel, but I think that’s the reason oils work so well for me because it kind of get to my body. It’s one of the senses, and I don’t actually have to really be in my body. So it is kind of a workaround coping mechanism.

Cathleen King: Yeah, yeah. I mean, aromatherapy is the most direct way to the limbic system, and it’s one of the best things that I think you can do to combine with the work I’m doing is finding sense that help you to trigger the emotional states that you’re looking for to help you. If you notice you’re getting really scattered, take a moment, become aware. Take some deep breaths of some type of essential oil that really helps you drop into the present moment and actually feel a little bit nourished in the present moment, and then you’re going to feel safer.

Jodi Cohen: No, I love that. One of the other things that you talked about that I really like totally connected a dot, you kind of mentioned the coping mechanisms. Can you go into that a little bit? Like how some of us, and it’s a little crazy because society if you are a control freak or a perfectionist and wildly productive, people reward you for that. They’re like, oh, go here. Yes. And they don’t necessarily realize that is a coping mechanism basically, if you have these personality traits, there’s a reason. Can you speak to that a little?

Cathleen King: Yeah, absolutely. So when we’re young, we often have different hurts that happen to us, different wounds, and our young self comes up with a strategy to be loved and a strategy to be safe. And the strategies can be different from person to person. Sometimes the strategy to be loved is to people please mom and Dad say yes, when you mean no, don’t have any needs. And then when you grow up, you get into relationships where you’re still the codependent people pleaser and you often find someone more dominant because that’s the energy that you’re used to.

Cathleen King: So that started as a strategy to be loved and to be safe. Same thing with perfectionism. Oh, if I do everything right, then I will be worthy enough to exist and I need to do it all right. Oh my gosh, everybody praises me when I get straight.

I am more worthy because I get straight. I know this pattern, and that becomes your sense of significance and worth, and it’s an absolute utter threat to get a C because then your worth is just destroyed because it was never formulated by who you are. It wasn’t reinforced by who you are. It was reinforced by what you did. And so that’s another coping mechanism. Sometimes we have coping mechanisms of anger and control because we feel safe if we can control others and use our anger and be the biggest voice in the room so that they don’t trigger us, and we know that they’re going to kind of keep us from feeling our shame since we are the ones that are more dominant. And that’s another coping mechanism is to be this dominant type, a strong big voice so that you are the one that’s in the most control.

All of these are ways to be safe and to be loved. And when you really come to understand these parts, they’re all benevolent. Even the angry narcissist is a benevolence, meaning they’re just trying to feel good about themself in some way. And if we can really get in touch with what we’re doing and why we’re behaving that way, we can befriend that part of us. And when we befriend that part of us, it means that our neural networks start talking to each other. You have this main self, this main adult self and you’ve got all of these protective parts of you. And when you start to get in touch with the reality behind what you do and why you’re doing it in a compassionate way, those neural networks start to talk. And when your conscious self and your protective self start to talk, you actually have more choice and you’re less likely to be hijacked.

You’re able to feel that urge like, oh, I feel like working today because I’ll get more significance. You can feel it, but then that other conscious part of you, if you’re able to understand that you’re just trying to get a need met and say, oh, I’m trying to get a need of significance met. What’s another way that’s going to help nourish me and not be just about getting things done and getting that reward? So it’s a journey. You guys. This is a journey. I’m still on the journey. I’m still on the journey. I want to just emphasize that of knowing yourself.

Jodi Cohen: Yes. It’s interesting. I kind of wonder when we have these programs running our leasing program, our perfectionist program, is that almost like the trauma pattern is kind of what we’re still in that coping mechanism. So somewhere in our body, as long as we have the coping mechanism, the body doesn’t feel safe.

Cathleen King: Yeah, I mean that’s exactly it. If we’re running that coping mechanism, it’s the body still not feeling worthy, feeling loved, and feeling safe. Otherwise, we wouldn’t need the coping mechanism. I mean, that’s what we’re doing to try to get that need met. And so until you can identify that need consciously, you’re not going to choose differently. You’re going to keep meeting it with the path of least resistance, which is what your neural pathways are wired to do, people-pleasing, perfectionism, workaholism, et cetera. So this is a process not only of nervous system regulation, but consciousness awakening, awakening to your patterns, to your needs, to your triggers, learning how to pause and be mindful and choose differently.

Jodi Cohen: You talk about your program a little bit, but just a little plug. I’ve only been doing it, I think I’ve been in it for two or three weeks, and the people in my life, my daughter, my boyfriend, have all noticed that I’m better able to regulate that. I’m less impatient that they’ve noticed situations where things went a little sideways and they’re like, well, you really didn’t react. And so I just want to give you huge kudos because that’s for anyone who has those aspects of themselves. I used to joke, that I was never Goldilocks. I was either too hot or too cold, like, oh, it’s fine, it’s fine. Everything’s fine, and then I’d blow up. I’m finding that way to ask for my needs, and people are actually saying, oh, okay.

Cathleen King: So you’re growing up and that’s what this is as a child. At some point, it wasn’t safe to say what our needs were. And then we grew up and we realized, oh, I can ask for them. And with some people, they’re actually going to respond in a positive way, and that’s when life can totally change. You don’t need those old behaviors to get your needs met because you can speak them and meet them in a new way.

Jodi Cohen: Please share a bit about your program, about how it’s structured.

Cathleen King: Yeah, absolutely. So we have an academy and we have a community, and actually, I don’t know if you have access to this book, but this is, maybe we could put it below in the show links. It’s a book that I wrote that’s free of how healing. Yeah, that would

Jodi Cohen: Yeah, that would be great. I would love for people to be able to download that. That’s amazing.

Cathleen King: So we can put that below the show notes. And it’s almost 130 pages, so it’s like a mini-program, and it’s going to describe everything I’m about to describe to you because it has the science and it has several tools and how the program works.

Jodi Cohen: So this would be a great way to just, and can kind of see the way your mind works. One of the things is if you like my stuff, you’ll love Kathleen. She’s very thorough, very organized, and really I think you explained things beautifully.

Cathleen King: Oh, thank you. I wrote that book for people to get an easy understanding of why nervous system work is so important, but once you sign up, it’s a membership, so it’s just a flat $96 a month to cancel any time everything’s included. We have an academy with hundreds of hours of courses actually, but level one is about 30 hours, and that’s where you’re going to learn all of your nervous system tools, over 40 tools, all of the science about why maybe you’ve gotten sick and how healing happens. And that’s really to help you start to self-regulate and help your symptoms to be relieved. We also have a community which is live classes almost every day, sometimes multiple times a day. I’m teaching, other people are teaching, and that’s for that support of how do you implement these tools? What are other people going through? How do I elevate my mood?

How do I regulate my limbic system? You’re learning it in the course, but you’re also practicing together as a community, and I find that that combination is really a win-win. Then we also have a level two program where we get into more of these trauma patterns that we were just discussing. It’s important to have nervous system tools understood and practiced before you really start getting into what’s been underneath the surface because it can get a little rocky. And so our level two program is to help you re-pattern your resistance, re-pattern, those protective patterns, re-pattern, what it was, that personality that caused you to get sick in the first place. That’s where we are re-patterning that personality. So nervous system rebalancing personality, and re-patterning.

Jodi Cohen: That’s really the gist of the program and I love that you call it regulate. I think that says everything. Yeah, I really do think that it’s fabulous. Is there anything that I haven’t asked you that you’d like to share?

Cathleen King: Well, I think a lot of people wonder if it’s possible for them to heal because their situation is different. It’s been too long, they’ve got too many diagnoses, et cetera. I want to say to you that there is a root, root, root situation to most things, and that is your autonomic nervous system and how it’s functioning, and how connected you are to your true self. And so despite what you’ve got going on, I’ve seen so many things heal by focusing on the nervous system, focusing on reclaiming their true self, and the body has wisdom. Even your body that’s been sick for many, many, many years and lots of diagnoses, still has wisdom once you get the nervous system online and come out of cell danger response. So I just want to say there’s always hope because some people think, well, that would work for someone else, but not me. You have a nervous system, you have a brain, this will work for you too.

Jodi Cohen: No, I completely agree, and I’m so excited because I think that I’m a big fan of layering. Use the oils, use your technique. The more you can kind of do, pick what it’s like a salad bar, pick what you like, but it’s great. Thank you so much. Share the name of your website again.

Cathleen King: Yeah, it’s primaltrust.org

Jodi Cohen: This was unbelievable. Thank you for your brilliance and for everything you do.

Cathleen King: Thank you.

Jodi Cohen: Thank you so much for listening. I hope this podcast empowered you with some useful information and takeaways. If you liked this episode, please consider sharing a positive review or subscribing. I would also love to offer you my free parasympathetic toolkit as a gift just for listening. It will teach you how to activate the most important nerve in your body to turn on your ability to heal. This free toolkit includes a checklist, a video, and a detailed guide. If this podcast prompted any questions, you can always find answers at my blog at vibrantblueoils.com or my book Essential Oils to Boost the Brain and Heal the Body. Until next time, wishing you vibrant Health.



Подпомагане на емоционалната гъвкавост с етерични масла

Физическата гъвкавост помага за поддържане на емоционалната гъвкавост.

Исторически съм бил доста емоционално скован – както във физическото си тяло, така и в умствения и емоционален живот. Твърдостта се определя като качеството да бъдеш твърд, фиксиран или невъзможен за огъване.

Във физическото ми тяло бедрата и долната част на гърба ми често се чувстваха сковани и стегнати. Емоционално съм бил създание на навика. Склонен съм да внимавам какво ям, къде ям, как прекарвам времето си и структурирам деня си.

Тази емоционална твърдост може да затрудни моето семейство и приятели, особено когато искат да опитат дейност, която попада извън моята твърда зона на комфорт.

Това каза, че работих невероятно усилено, за да бъда по-малко твърд, така че да мога по-добре да посрещам нуждите и исканията на другите хора. Било е борба. Въпреки че съм изключително издръжлив и силен, опитите ми да опитам нови неща и да освободя сковаността си ме накараха да се чувствам много тревожен и много уязвим.

С други думи, някои от тези твърди поведения бяха отдавна установен механизъм за справяне, който сякаш беше закотвен в тялото ми и ме държеше заклещен.

Когато започнах да освобождавам фасциални сраствания и ограничения във физическото си тяло, с изненада забелязах

че колкото повече разплитам физическото напрежение в тъканта си, толкова повече подобрявам емоционалната си гъвкавост и способността си за емоционална регулация в личния си живот.

Емоционалната гъвкавост е способността да разпознавате, освобождавате, регулирате и преминавате през емоциите си в променящи се ситуации.

Емоционалната твърдост буквално означава, че оставате заклещени в емоциите си, което може да ви попречи да бъдете гъвкави или отстъпчиви и да ограничи способностите ви за решаване на проблеми, особено когато се адаптирате към нови или неочаквани събития или ситуации.

Емоционалната твърдост компрометира способността ви да се приспособявате към нуждите на другите или да проявявате състрадание към гледната точка на другите, техните нужди и искания.

Ригидността може да се прояви като неспособност за поемане на рискове, контролиращо или натрапчиво поведение, трудности при справяне с неяснота и неспособност да се приемат или дават приоритет на гледните точки или нуждите на други хора.

Във вашето физическо тяло гъвкавостта може да се представи като способност да се движите през неограничен, безболезнен диапазон на движение, който може да бъде повлиян от подвижността на меките тъкани, като фасцията. Физическата скованост може да се преживее и като неспособността на мускулите да се отпуснат – да останат свити или частично свити за продължителен период от време. Хроничният или продължителен стрес може да накара мозъка ви да изпраща непрекъснати нервни сигнали, които казват на мускулите ви да се свиват, дори когато мускулът вече не е необходим за движение.

Подобно на физическата твърдост, емоционалната ригидност може да ви държи заклещени в стари модели, които ограничават вашата адаптивност и възпрепятстват способността ви да преминавате лесно през живота.

Гъвкавостта ви дава възможност да се движите през вашия умствен и емоционален пейзаж, без да се фиксирате или да заседнете. Емоционалната гъвкавост е способността да изживявате емоциите си, вместо да ги избягвате или отблъсквате.

Емоционалната гъвкавост ви помага да покажете емоцията и да сте готови да я изпитате със самосъчувствие. Като сте гъвкави, можете просто да забележите какво се случва, без да правите преценки дали емоцията е положителна или отрицателна, след което да реагирате по начини, които са в съответствие с вашите ценности.

Тази гъвкавост ви предпазва от самоидентификация или „заклещване“ в емоцията или историите, които свързвате с емоция. Това ви позволява да контролирате навигацията в емоциите си, вместо да бъдете контролирани от емоцията.

Емоционалната гъвкавост ви позволява да изместите фокуса си от агонизиране върху това, което не можете да контролирате, към фокусиране върху това, което е в рамките на способността ви да контролирате разумно

Емоционалната твърдост може да включва:

  • Проблем с доверието на хората
  • Необходимост от контролиране на ситуации или събития, което води до високи нива на стрес, когато те не могат да бъдат контролирани
  • Придържане към определен набор от правила или процедури, дори когато те вече не служат на полезна цел
  • Пренебрегвайки идеите и мислите на другите хора, вярвайки, че вашият собствен път винаги е правилният
  • Съпротива срещу промяната, дори ако тя би довела до по-добър резултат
  • Чувство на принуда да направите нещо, като броене или проверка, за да намалите безпокойството или да почувствате чувство за контрол
  • Трябва да си прав
  • Ядосвайте се много за малки неща
  • Обсебеност от детайли, дори незначителни детайли
  • Критичен към другите
  • Не харесвам промените и не обичам изненадите
  • Ако приемем, че вашата гледна точка е правилна, а всички останали грешат
  • Вкопчване в миналото и отказ да продължиш напред
  • Искам да знам какво ще се случи, как ще се случи и кога ще се случи
  • Отхвърляне на лидерството на други хора, чувство на необходимост да контролирате по всяко време
  • Черно и бяло Мислене или виждане на нещата само като добри или лоши, без междинни
  • Прекомерно планиране, микро-управление и разстройване, когато нещата не вървят по план
  • Чувство на хроничен стрес и тревожност, дори за дребни неща
  • Неспособност за поемане на рискове
  • Компулсии за предприемане на определени действия въз основа на съществуващи навици и нагласи
  • Прекомерна реакция: Малките неща ви правят супер ядосани или тъжни
  • Страх от промяна и избягване на нови или различни неща, защото се чувстват страшни
  • Перфекционистични тенденции, които могат да доведат до нереалистични очаквания и страх от провал
  • Придържайте се към определена рутина или начин на правене на нещата, което ограничава способността ви да се адаптирате към нови ситуации
  • Заклещени във фиксирани начини на мислене, което ограничава способността ви да генерирате нови идеи.

Освобождаването на фасцията помага за „отлепването“ на емоционалната енергия и освобождаването на напрежението в областите на тялото ви, които съответстват на трудни емоции, което може да ви помогне да създадете пространство, за да можете леко да освободите емоциите си, без да се налага да ги облекчавате.

Този нежен процес на култивиране на физическата гъвкавост отваря пространство за повишена умствена и емоционална гъвкавост. Това означава, че изпитвате пълната гама от емоции, без да се забивате в каквото и да е умствено или емоционално състояние.

Изглежда, че фасцията действа като медиатор между автономната нервна система, емоционалната регулация и имунната регулация, според изследване на „Фасцията като сетивен и емоционален орган“.

Фасцията е тъканта, която обгражда, поддържа и защитава всеки орган, кръвоносен съд, мускул и нерв в тялото. Като такава, фасцията е силно инервирана и богата на кръвоносни съдове, лимфни и хормонални и невротрансмитерни рецептори и изглежда играе роля в съхранението на емоционални спомени.

Смята се, че фасцията съдържа 25% повече нервни окончания от кожата и 1000% повече от общата инервация на мускулите, така че фасцията може да се счита за нашия най-богат сетивен орган и вашите сетива са силно свързани със съхранението на вашите емоционални спомени. Това може да обясни как освобождаването на лицевите сраствания помага за освобождаване на заседнали емоции, които ви държат в емоционална твърдост.

Етеричните масла могат да бъдат мощни инструменти, които да ви помогнат да се предадете на своя „поток“, за да можете да освободите заседналата енергия, контрола и стагнацията. Свързването с природата може да ви помогне да се свържете със способността си да увеличите гъвкавостта, да намалите твърдостта и да бъдете по-способни да се отдадете и да потечете с живота.

Маслата, получени от растения, могат да помогнат за поддържане на потока и нежно да разрушат стагнацията и да увеличат движението както на физическо, умствено, така и на емоционално ниво.

Всъщност китайската медицина отдавна е включила етерични масла за изчистване на блокове в специфични акупунктурни канали и активиране на свързаните енергийни системи на органи. Това е една от причините, поради които се опитвам да бъда супер конкретен относно точките за кандидатстване. Многократно съм откривал, че използването на етерични масла за активиране на акупресурни точки има синергичен ефект, който е по-мощен от използването на точки на натиск или ароматерапия като независими модалности за самообслужване.

Нещо повече, върбите и другите растения с дълбоки корени в земята и гъвкави клони и листа са известни със способността си да се огъват, без да се счупят, което означава гъвкавост, адаптивност и сила. Върбата има гъвкави клони, които се извиват и обръщат при буря, но не се чупят лесно. Дървото също има здрави корени, които го поддържат здраво и устойчиво срещу силни ветрове.

Етеричните масла, получени от гъвкави растения, могат да помогнат за поддържане на физическа и емоционална гъвкавост, което ми позволява да бъда по-гъвкав и по-малко контролиращ и твърд в живота си.

ПРОЧЕТЕТЕ ТОВА СЛЕДВАЩО: Освобождаване на контрола

Fascia Release ви помага да разплетете дълбоко задържаните напрежения и умствени, физически и емоционални стеснения, за да насърчите физическата и умствена гъвкавост във всички области на живота си.

Fascia Release помага за освобождаване на сраствания и стеснения, което създава пространство, за да ви позволи да почувствате и освободите емоциите си, без да се забивате в каквото и да е умствено или емоционално състояние. Това състояние на фасциална гъвкавост или кохерентност ви дава възможност да се движите през вашия умствен и емоционален пейзаж, без да се фиксирате или заклещвате в някакви предварително съществуващи твърди модели.

Формулиран с етерични масла, извлечени от гъвкави растения с дълбоки корени в земята като тамян, Fascia Release помага за поддържане на мускулната релаксация, намаляване на мускулното напрежение и насърчаване на усещането за лекота в тялото, което може да подпомогне подобрената умствена и физическа гъвкавост.

Fascia Release™ сместа съдържа масло от лавандула, което е известно със своите успокояващи и успокояващи ефекти. Известно е, че лавандулата помага за облекчаване на мускулното напрежение и насърчава релаксацията, което косвено може да подпомогне гъвкавостта. Cypress позволява подобрена гъвкавост и устойчивост. Тамянът помага за успокояване на нервната система и поддържа умствената гъвкавост. Черният пипер и маслото от розмарин са стимулиращи и ободряващи, което може да помогне за подобряване на кръвообращението и облекчаване на мускулното напрежение, което може да подпомогне гъвкавостта.

Нанесете върху задната част на врата и задната част на сърцето, за да подобрите умствената и физическата гъвкавост.

ПРОЧЕТЕТЕ ТОВА СЛЕДВАЩО: Етерични масла за освобождаване на фасцията

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Заземяването ви позволява да преминавате през различни умствени и емоционални състояния, докато оставате заземени. Свързването на вашата енергия със земята и краката ви може да ви помогне да не се вдървите или да заседнете в главата си, защото пренася вашето съзнание в тялото.

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Season 4, Episode 14: How Mold Impacts Your Personality: Surprising Cognitive and Mood Systems of Mold Exposure with Pejman Katiraei

Jodi Cohen: Hello and welcome to Essential Alchemy. Alchemy is defined as the power or process that changes or transforms something in a mysterious or impressive way. My hope is that the information in this podcast can help you transform your mood, energy, physical health, or even some dots to help you shift your mental or emotional state. I’m your host, Jodi Cohen, a bestselling author, award-winning journalist, functional practitioner, lifelong learner, and founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, a company that sells proprietary blends of high-quality, organic, or wildcrafted essential oil remedies designed to help you return to your ideal mental, physical, and emotional state. You can find out more about me and my company at vibrantblueoils.com. And with that, let’s get started with today’s episode.

I’m so excited to be joined by one of my favorite people, Dr. Pejman Katiraei, he is a board certified pediatrician who completed his undergraduate at UCLA and then obtained an osteopathic medical degree from Western University.

He completed his pediatric residency at Luma Linda University, where he stayed on as a teaching faculty for over four years. And one of my favorite things is that he feels we must do more to help children who are struggling, and that’s why he helped found the Holistic Minds and AI holistic assistant to empower an army of healthcare providers to help families find and treat the root cause of complex health problems. I was honored to hear him speak at a recent conference where he talked about mold and he talked about it in such a way that never really landed quite the same before, how it’s really the root cause for so many, not just physical things, not just allergies, not just respiratory conditions, but the underlying root cause for mood disorders, for focus challenges, for a lot of issues that we see not only in our children but in ourselves. So I’m so excited to drill down on this. Welcome and thank you for being here.

Pejman Katiraei: Thank you for having me. Thank you for creating this space for us to hopefully share some good information that’ll help people understand what may be happening to them and their kids.

Jodi Cohen: Yeah, I’d love to cast the net fairly wide and just talk about, I’m actually super curious how you’ve even figured out mold was going on if it just was kind of the root cause for all the symptoms you were seeing, but either you or your child aren’t quite right. What are some of the symptoms that you might be experiencing if you are living in a moldy environment or working in a moldy environment?

Pejman Katiraei: I share with people that mold is having a ghost in your home that you can’t really see. Some people can smell it, but most people can’t. So it’s one of those things unless you know what to look for, it’s so obscenely easy to miss. You miss it on tests, like regular lab tests would never show it. So it is almost like a ghost that’s floating around causing harm for adults. One of the biggest telltale signs that I see if someone is being exposed is just this weird state of brain fog or memory issues where young people and I have the parents of my kids that are in their thirties or forties, they’re like, yeah, my memory is just shock. I can’t remember the basic things. I am a busy professional, but I’m struggling to remember some of the things and I have to write everything down.

The other thing is just weird energy lapses where they’re just exhausted for no reason. They have to drink 10 cups of coffee to keep going. They wake up tired even though they’ve slept nine hours, or eight hours, which for any healthy adult should be good. So those are the two most kind of common vague things. And then along with that, you can have recurrent sinus issues. There are adults that are like, yeah, every time my kid gets sick, I get nailed and I’ve had pneumonia once and I’ve had a sinus infection once. And a lot of these things that normally you wouldn’t think is a big deal except most healthy adults shouldn’t be getting sick from, I mean, yeah, your kid has a nasty virus. You get congestion and cold for a few days, but it shouldn’t turn into pneumonia or a gnarly sinus infection that now lands you on some kind of antibiotic like Cipro. So these are the things, the common things. And then from there, you can have thyroid issues, gastrointestinal issues, autoimmunity, and all kinds of other things that can show up in the adults.

Jodi Cohen: And then for kids, it’s funny, everything you said, I’m like, check, check, check. Sometimes I’m talking and I’m like, wait a minute, what is that word? Flannel? I couldn’t remember the flannel the other day. Yeah. So in children, fatigue is probably a focus issue. What are some of the other symptoms for the parents that are listening that might show up in children?

Pejman Katiraei: The first thing that really has me perk my ears up is weird sensory changes. So these kids that have trouble with hair washing, they get overwhelmed and they may not be on the autism spectrum and certainly the kids on the autism spectrum, but the kids that just get overwhelmed in loud environments, crowded environments, and their sensory perception of the world has changed. They could be clumsy and they’re just, yeah, my kid just stumbles and falls all the time. It could be that they can’t tolerate clothing. It’s not just like…

Jodi Cohen: Or the socks. I had one like that.

Pejman Katiraei: And if it’s just a sock, maybe not a big deal, but if your kid only wears four shirts because everything else is uncomfortable to them. And then as an extension of this, usually they have these weird eating patterns where they also only eat a handful of foods. Usually, it’s like chicken nuggets from one place, but it’s like chicken nuggets, maybe pizza, maybe a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and plain pasta period, end of story. No fruits and vegetables. They can’t tolerate the texture of proteins, and it’s this weird constellation of sensory issues that shows up first and foremost as an extension of that. And we can talk about how these are all tied together. A lot of times what you also see is a lot of distractibility. So the kids that are just all over the place, which we label as A-D-D-A-D-H-D, a lot of times they have the hyperactivity, which is actually a vestibular issue, has to do with their balance centers being off.

So the reason why they’re moving is that actually helps them calibrate their sense of balance. Their body is actually moving them because the body needs that sensory input, even though we label it as, oh, that kid is hyperactive, that kid is moving for a reason. Some of these kids will have a weird fear response, which also can show up as anger because fear and anger psychologically are intimately related. So these kids that just lack any real ability to manage their emotions, any little thing sets them off and they’re just either crying or becoming angry over nothing. And then anxiety. So as all of these things unfold, these children develop these weird patterns of anxiety where little things cause them to freak out. They’re hesitant to be out in the world. Sometimes there are weird patterns of OCD where they’re extremely rigid and the parents are like, yeah, we have to map out every single thing that we’re going to do in the day. And if we deviate even the slightest bit, where instead of going from here to the ice cream shop, we first stop at the store, Johnny loses it because he can’t tolerate that deviation. So they’re very weird patterns of sensory and psychological manifestations and learning issues that all kind of can come together. And sometimes it’s all of it. Sometimes it’s parts of it, but when you see it, it’s like, oh God, that’s kind of weird.

Jodi Cohen: I love that. I mean, you’re so clearly articulating this behavioral pattern that I can think of my own child, so many people are coming to mind, including myself in some ways. So could we maybe get into why mold presents this way and then we can maybe talk about how to identify if you have mold in your home and what you might do as a first step in addition to seeing you?

Pejman Katiraei: Sure, sure. Do you mind if I expand on a few other things that families can see?

Jodi Cohen: I would love that kids.

Pejman Katiraei: Yeah, thanks. So what we also sometimes see is a lot of congestion. So it can show up in the adults too, but in the kids, the kids that get recurrent ear infections, the kids that have these honking adenoids, and there’s actually one research study out there that showed that adenoid hypertrophy is significantly more prevalent in kids that live in mold contaminated environment. So lots of allergies, lots of congestion, recurrent sinus issues, and the kids that are exhausted, so as you touched on, they just lack vitality. They’re tired all the time, they lack color in their face. Some of these kids have failed to thrive, so they’re not growing, and at the end of the day, it just looks like that life force, the Q in their body is just depleted. That is one of the other manifestations that can show up with this mold exposure. Why mold does this is, I mean, first and foremost, mold is just something that is highly toxic to the system, so it’s toxic to our mitochondria.

There are probably 10 to 20 studies that I know of off the top of my head where they have found that these multi toxins actually disrupt the mitochondria, multiple different pathways, and the mitochondria, little generators, we eat food, the food gets broken down to the components that get fed into the mitochondria like gasoline. The mitochondria then generate electricity, a TP, which gives us vitality ability to think, ability to talk, and so forth. It’s almost like imagining a generator having multiple parts it either becoming broken or degraded, or there’s sludge in the generator, so the generator just cannot run as efficiently to produce energy. So it’s still running, but it’s running at 70% instead of a hundred percent. So that’s where the low vitality, the low energy in the kids and adults comes from. A lot of times that’s also where brain fog comes from, so that when the mitochondria aren’t running well and we have inflammation and toxicity, accretes this weird state of brain fog on top of that, this is the part that at least I think is kind of cool and interesting.

Mold toxins and mold itself trigger a very weird inflammatory response. Is it mast cell activation? Yeah. Wow. Okay. So mast cells are highly, highly, highly sensitive to mold and mold toxins, and it’s not just within our nose and throat. It turns out that in the gastrointestinal tract, these mold and toxins, which we are swallowing, and because we inhale it, the toxins go through our bloodstream, and then via the bloodstream, they can actually activate the mast cells because they ultimately will get into where the mast cells are and trigger them, and they trigger the mast cells to become activated. And the mast cells are essentially these guard dogs or guards of our body. They’re there to protect us from weird things, and they’re there constantly surveilling the environment to make sure nothing bad happens to us. So when mast cells see these moldable toxins, it’s like the burglar that’s trying to into your house and your guard dog is just going nuts trying to protect the house, right?

Pejman Katiraei: It’s aggressively trying to attack it to the point where it starts breaking windows and breaking doors because it’s just going full force to try to break, to stop that intruder. Now, in a way it’s like, well, it’s great that the mast cells are trying to protect us, except that comes at a huge cost. And the first thing is all the congestion and histamine and so forth, except that same immune reaction also affects this thing. It affects the nervous system, and that’s where the weird constellation of aggression irritability sensory issues, and anxiety comes from.

Jodi Cohen: I love that. I love the way you correlate those two things because I know a lot of kids that have tons of inflammation and we’re just assuming, oh, it must be the diet. But then you do the food allergy test and it’s a little inconclusive. Some mold is something, it’s a blind spot that people should look at.

Pejman Katiraei: Yeah. And sometimes what you’ll see is you do the food sensitivity or allergy tests and everything lights up, and I’m sure you’ve had those patients where you’re like, what the hell is going on? There are more foods they can’t eat, and there’s like three foods that they can’t eat to the point where you’re like, wait, how does this make sense? And that’s part of that immune activation where the gut has become so reactive that it’s now reacting to everything. When you see these patterns or there are other things and you do the elimination diet and it’s not working, if you stand back and say, why is this system as a whole, this human body so activated, why is this immune system so irrational? And it’s almost like if you look at the guard dog if that guard dog has now become rabid to the point where it’s no longer behaving normally, it’s not like, Hey, teal, calm down and the dog is still going nuts. That is what mold and mold toxins do to the immune system. It causes almost a rabid-like weird activation that’s not rational by any means.

Jodi Cohen: That is so helpful. So for anyone who’s listening who either hears themself or their child in what you’re describing, what is your protocol? How do you help people? What are your steps for figuring out if there is mold in the house for eradicating the mold and just supporting the body?

Pejman Katiraei: It all starts with first just having a suspicion. I mean, I have to tell you, if you had talked to me, let’s say seven, probably even six years ago, I would not be where I am now. I thought I knew something about MOT six years ago, and I thought I had some awareness, and it was actually one of the families in my practice that kid had a severe case of pans, which is just he had high anxiety, couldn’t go to school, anxiety, intense aggression, irritability, so forth. And we tried everything, elimination diets, checking his poop, literally checking everything.

Pejman Katiraei: Nothing made any sense, nothing worked. And she was the one that’s like, Hey, could this be mold? And long story short, it was, and it opened up my eyes to this, and then I did some training, but you have to first start with getting to a place of saying, gosh, maybe this is mold.

And the reason for that is, frankly speaking, most of our testing is, I hate to use the word useless. They’re not useless, but they’re highly fallible. For instance, a lot of people will do a urine mold toxin test either through a company like Mosaic or through real-time labs. There’s another company called Vibrant. All of these tests, first of all, they’re not FDA approved, but more so they can give way weird positives where there isn’t mold and it shows up like, oh, this is scary because the person is eating peanut butter and other mold-contaminated food. Coffee, yeah, coffee or it can look totally normal except a person is living in God awful amounts of mold. I’ve seen both.

Jodi Cohen: Okay. False positives and false negatives.

Pejman Katiraei: Yeah. Okay. Some people use organic acid tests. This is a test where essentially you’re checking the biochemistry of the body, and there are a lot of holistic providers that see kids that use this as their first tool. And in my experience, 40% of the time, give or take, it gives a false negative where the fungal markers and the markers that would suggest there’s some kind of mold look totally normal, absolutely normal, except things are not normal. And that’s scary almost one in two times, if your tests just completely flop and you don’t know that it’s flopping, someone would do the test. They’re like, oh, everything is fine. There’s no issue. And they move on except there is an issue. And these were all the mistakes I made early on where I would do these tests and be like, oh, this is a mold, and I’d move on to other stuff. And then a year later, it’s like you kind of hit yourself in the head. You’re like, God, how did I miss that?

Jodi Cohen: What about that eyesight test? I think maybe it’s $15 online, and if your eyesight is a little off, that could be mold.

Pejman Katiraei: The sensitivity of that is much higher for kids. I don’t use it as much just because the compliance isn’t always great.

Jodi Cohen: What’s the name of that test? So I can put it in the show notes.

Pejman Katiraei: I have to look it up honestly. Okay. Yeah, no, I’ll it up. I’m aware of it. I don’t use it much just because for the kids, again, I didn’t find that it’s helpful there.

Jodi Cohen: A good diagnostic tool that you found that’s accurate?

Pejman Katiraei: Yeah, that takes us to blood testing. Antibody testing so far has been the most accurate way to detect if there’s exposure to mold and you can do it through companies like Alles, A-L-L-E-T-E-S-S or through another company called My Myco Lab, you can actually check for immune reactions against molds or in the case of my Myco, you can actually check for immune reactions against the mold toxins, at least in my experience, have seen the sensitivity of these tests where they actually accurately detect what’s going on to be closer to 80%. Still not a hundred percent. I’ve seen them fail as well, but they’re better than the other tests. And sometimes what I’ll do is actually use a combination. So I’ll do a blood test with a urine test and sometimes the blood test flops, but the urine test picks it up or vice versa. I’ve had some patients where the families come in and they’re like, look, I don’t want to stick a needle in my kid and I don’t want to spend 400 bucks if it’s not going to give me the results.

And sometimes in those cases when you add things up with a history, the kid has anxiety, the mom has brain fog, another one of the kids has chronic congestion, and yeah, that window in their bedroom has been leaking for the last two years. Our roof has been leaking or whatever. In some of these cases, what I do is I tell them like, look, save your money. Don’t spend money on the test. Let’s do an accurate test of the home to see if what we think is happening is happening and why I say an accurate test of the home. This is another area where there’s a lot of variability, to say the least. I can’t tell you how many families I’ve had have come in where they’re like, yeah, we had our home tested twice by an inspector and there was no mold, and there was one family where the dad absolutely thought I was just completely off my rocker because he brought in one of his friends who’s a contractor, has a mold testing company.

They came, and they did the testing, no mold in the house, and everything was fine. I told the mom like, Hey, this isn’t making sense. The older daughter had weird sensory issues, and weird anxiety. The little one who was only nine months old was sleeping eight hours a night, and that was like with waking up two or three times in the middle of the night, and for an infant, she was napping 45 minutes once or two times a day. That’s another kind of weird thing that can happen with mold exposure. So long story short, I hounded them, hounded them. They finally brought in someone that I recommended. It turns out that the way that the weatherproofing of the house was, it was completely torn and literally the entire perimeter of their downstairs, because moisture, every time it rained, moisture was coming straight into the wall. There was mold around the entire bottom part of the house, and that initial mold inspector with the way tested completely missed it. It’s spooky, it’s scary.

Jodi Cohen: We had mold in our front load washing machine and we’re told that that’s fairly common. So all the time I was washing their clothes, everything that they were sleeping in wearing, it was exposing them.

Pejman Katiraei: Air conditioning units. I’ve had some families where the house was fine, but the air conditioning unit, because air conditioning units, when they run, they trap all this moisture, they take moisture out of the air. If that moisture doesn’t drain quickly away from the coils, those coils, if they sit there just wet all the time. I’ve had some cases where every time the family was running the air conditioning unit, the coils were the source of mold.

Jodi Cohen: Or even the ducks in the house can get. Yeah. Wow. So remediation is important. And then I know you also have really good tools for helping remediate the body, like certain supplements, certain protocols. Can you share a little bit about that?

Pejman Katiraei: Sure. So one of the first things I do for the kids, especially if they’re presenting with anxiety or learning difficulties or anger and aggression, which is a large part of what I take care of, or kids with autism for instance, and they come in and they’re disconnected from the world, my first step is just to calm down their systems. And how we do this is through using anti inflammatories. So there’s a really cool supplement called mi, widely available super, super safe. M-I-R-I-C-A MI is a blend of this bioflavonoid called luteolin in this fat extract from eggs called PEA, and that combination calms down the mast cells, so the rabid dog that’s going nuts. This supplement actually calms down the mast cells, and part of why that’s important is the histamine and the inflammation. These mast cells cause actually where a lot of these sensory issues come from.

So histamine actually happens to be a powerful regulator of the nervous system, and a way to think about that is if you ever take Benadryl, right, what happens? Most people just you knock out, right? You fall asleep because the histamine levels have dropped way low. If histamine is super, super high on top of first of all, feeling hyper-caffeinated, I joke with some families, I’m like, Hey, it really looks like your kid is hyper-caffeinated. And they’re like, yeah, he just can’t slow down. By modulating histamine, we’re able to calm down the nervous system because histamine affects dopamine, A lot of the catecholamines like adrenaline or epinephrine. So we’re able to calm down these pathways that stimulate the nervous system because histamine also directly impacts the sensory pathways, so sound processing, visual processing, the vestibular, and the balance centers. As we reduce the histamine, what happens is intense sensory distortion.

Pejman Katiraei: And the best way to contextualize this, imagine if your brain’s volume of the world, all your senses, not just sound, but all your senses would be turned up so normal should be like, let’s say 50% happy, normal people that are comfortable in the world, their volume setting is 50. Imagine if that was turned up to 85, or 90 and the entire world felt almost like too loud. It’s too intense. Some of these people, we have called the highly sensitive people, HSPs, except when you look at HSP, I’m a highly sensitive person. I sense a lot in the world, but when my nervous system is balanced, I can sense a lot, but be comfortable in the world. When my nervous system goes out of balance and I’ve had a little bit too much pizza and haven’t taken care of myself, weird things start happening to my nervous system, HSPs, that we kind of clump into that camp or sensory kids or autism or some of the kids that have social anxiety.

When you drill down and you ask, what is it that causes all of these people, these children to struggle, it’s their sensory pathways that are just kind of out of control. They’re turned up. It’s overwhelming. When you bring down that rabid dog behavior and you bring down histamine, I’ll share another two supplements actually that are helpful. What we do is we calm down that sensory overwhelm. We calm down the nervous system, we calm down that agitation, and through that, all of a sudden these kids are now feeling comfortable in their skin, they’re comfortable in their world, their anxiety calms down, their irritability calms down. And I’ve had families where the poor kids couldn’t leave the house. Literally, they couldn’t leave the house because they were just so overwhelmed, and whether they had autism or not, frankly doesn’t matter, kids that would have full-fledged meltdowns because everything was causing them to feel overwhelmed, suddenly their tantrums and meltdowns are gone.

In addition to the miracle to calm down this rabid dog, mast cell activity, there’s an enzyme called the DAO enzyme, a diamine oxidase. Enzyme Seeking Health has one, it’s called Histamine Digest, but there are a bunch of companies that have it, one of my favorites is actually called Nature Dao, N-A-T-U-R-D-A-O. They’re out of Spain, I believe, and the reason why I like them is they’re a hell of a lot cheaper than other ones, and they work really well. But these enzymes reduce the histamine levels that are released within the gut which ultimately makes it up here, and by reducing the histamine levels, we’re able to again calm down the nervous system. Another handy supplement that I’ve come to love is cat claw. So literally cat claw. Part of what Cat Claw is really cool at is reducing this compound called TNF Alpha and TNF Alpha is part of the signaling pathways between the mast cells and some of the other immune cells. So when you calm that down, it’s like the irritating signals that are constantly bouncing back and forth between these immune cells constantly driving. The inflammation calms down, and that helps the system calm down.

Jodi Cohen: I love this, and what I really love is that so many people assume that certain things are just their personality or their child’s personality. I’m an introvert. Loud noises feel overwhelming. I get really overwhelmed and crowded like I’m claustrophobic. We’ve all kind of painted ourselves into a corner thinking that it’s our personality and it’s really our body’s reaction to something that can be regulated and modulated. I love this.

Pejman Katiraei: I love what you just said. It’s so true. I’ll actually share an example of my own, because I, for the longest time, hated skiing because that sliding down a mountain at any speed just made me feel so uncomfortable. Yeah, it was scary. It was scary. And I was one of those annoying people that on the green slopes was inching my way forward, and the entire time I’m like, why the hell am I doing this? This is miserable. Long story short, I started taking the miracle in particular and then did some sensory integration work afterward, and then we went skiing just this last December, and I literally got off the run or the lift within the first 15 seconds. I’m like, oh my God, this is so much fun. And then I started going faster and faster and faster, and by the third run, I was going so fast that I actually ended up injuring myself because my speed and skillset were very much out of line. But it was weird to your point where all of a sudden it’s almost as if I had inhabited a different brain in my experience of skiing and other parts of the world had completely changed.

Jodi Cohen: No, I took it and I have rigidity issues, and I noticed I was really when someone was doing the leaf blowing on the street, my whole capacity for sensory overload was too great. And yeah, I’m much better at regulating everything that I thought was my personality, I think is actually my biochemical reactions. So I love this.

Pejman Katiraei: That’s so cool. I’m happy that you got to enjoy that. But I mean, to your point, how many millions of people, how many kiddos out there have this going on where they have some inflammation driving this and we just say, oh, well, this kid just has some social anxiety. That kid is just shy. This kid has some anger issues, and that’s like the power of this conversation that we’re able to take these things that we see all the time and now put it into the context of physiology and do something about it.

Jodi Cohen: Well, I know so many kids that have anxiety, they have depression, they can’t focus, and so they take the anxiety med, the depression med, the DD med, and it does nothing because that’s not the reason. It’s a biochemical imbalance. The mold is complicating their A PT production. They’re having mast cell issues. Maybe they have pain, maybe they have eczema. And so anything we can do to help them realize, first of all, where you do not have problems. There’s nothing wrong with your personality. Your body is just reacting to things, and we’re just going to regulate your body, and those symptoms are going to go away.

Pejman Katiraei: Yeah. Yeah. It’s like if your car started showing yellow and red warning lights, you wouldn’t ignore it and just be like, oh, yeah. You’d

Jodi Cohen: Say, oh, I bought a lemon. You’d fix it.

Pejman Katiraei: Yeah, you would go and say, what the heck is going on? I think the problem is if you have a broken leg, it’s obvious you have a broken leg. Correct. Right. Now, when it comes to mental health, our ability to understand the physiological root causes of most mental health issues is, I mean, frankly, this is why I’m so happy to be having this conversation with you and for us to share this with your community because we have to start looking at this differently. You touched on depression. I can’t tell you. I’ve had several dozen kids come in with severe depression where they were put on multiple different antidepressants, and it turns out that just exactly what you touched on, they had an issue with their A TP production, and literally their A TP production had tanked, and they were exhausted and feeling depressed and feeling sad.

Why? Because they didn’t have any vitality. And I put them on some carnitine. There’s a beautiful supplement called Spectrum Needs, and it’s made for kids on the spectrum, but my wife takes it. My kids take it because it just works so well for optimizing energy. And some of these kiddos, literally within a few weeks, go from severely depressed and medication-resistant depression, not like, oh, he’s a little sad, severe depression to three weeks later, all of a sudden feeling happy and energetic and doing well. And it’s just understanding the biochemistry, understanding the physiology to make a difference in all of these people’s lives.

Jodi Cohen: Well, and the miracle, I believe, what did you say? Two capsules twice a day, and within two weeks, you can tell something is different.

Pejman Katiraei: Yeah, it gets cool. It doesn’t take 15 years. That dosing is kind of, I do a loading dose, so for little kids, little kids, I’ve had three and six-year-olds on it, and for them, I’ll typically give them one capsule. Always talk to your doctor. Don’t just listen to me or anyone but little kids. I’ll put them in one capsule a day to start, and then half a capsule. For older kids, I’ll start them at one to two capsules a day and then drop them down. And I mean, for adults, these supplements are safe. You can’t really cause much harm. So for adults, two capsules twice a day, and either within two weeks you’re like, or three weeks, you’re like, oh, wow. Something is changing. My anxiety, my reaction to the world. Some people, I’ve also seen impulsivity change because it turns out that part of the microglia, which is another part of the immune system that is affected, actually plays a part in impulsivity. So those kids that just, they can’t help themselves, then they react to everything they touch, everything they do, they talk out of line. I’ve literally seen within two weeks impulsivity and some of these things calm down as well.

Jodi Cohen: My son was a blur outer. Yeah, he answers himself. This is amazing. Is there anything I haven’t asked you that you’d like to share?

Pejman Katiraei: I think that this is great, and it’s complicated, but it’s also simple, right? When you step back, you’re like, God, a lot of this is almost intuitive once you start kind of just seeing some of the connections. And part of my wish is to really just help more people see these things and to be able to reach into these worlds and get access to this information because the science is there. If you type in microglia and impulsivity or microglia and anger or mast cells or histamine and sensory pathways, the information is there. The problem is we just haven’t been able to put this in the hands of people and providers so they can make a difference in their lives or the providers and the lives of the people they serve.

Jodi Cohen: Well, I’m so grateful to you and all the dots that you have connected and all the people that you are helping and will continue to help. Can you please share more about how people can find you and work with you?

Pejman Katiraei: Sure. Sure. So first of all, I’m on Instagram. So for those who are interested in going to Instagram, holistic Kids, so W-H-O-L-I-S-T-I-C kids, I have a clinic, which is also Holistic Kids and Families. The main area that I’m focusing on is really doing a lot more than seeing people one-on-one because that’s not how we can change the world. I wish that I could help every single kid out there who’s struggling, but that’s just not a physical possibility. Part of yes, but that’s part of why we created Holistic Minds. Holistic Minds, as you mentioned early on, is an AI platform that essentially gives any provider who’s interested superpowers. It helps them quickly see what’s going on. So it asks all the questions and gathers all the data processes. The data, helps the provider see the patterns within the data. So kind of all the things that I shared on our podcast and our discussion, they’re all patterns.

The system is literally scanning for all these patterns and many, many more, and it’s assessing the mitochondria. It’s assessing mast cells, it’s assessing histamine, it’s assessing the gut, it’s assessing the environment, and it’s not just mold. It’s looking for Lyme, looking for heavy metals, looking for glyphosates, and through this, it helps providers start seeing like, oh God, this kid may be exposed to, let’s say, mold. What are the tests in order to check this, here are the supplements like Miracle and Histamine Digest and many more that I can use to start helping this child get better, and because the system automates the hell out of everything, it’s not just all providers know how to look for these things. I’m sure as you help people, you run into the same thing. What we do takes a lot of time. We spend 30 minutes, 60 minutes, sometimes 90 minutes.

Pejman Katiraei: Some people spend two hours per patient, which is great, but unless you want to go broke and be homeless as a provider, you have to charge for your time, which means that holistic care right now becomes expensive, sometimes very expensive. By automating all of the things that right now we as holistic providers do in person manually. We sit there and we ask a million questions. We sit there and we write out recommendations. Holistic minds automate everything down to, you want to send a dietary recommendation, dietary recommendations are there. Provider clicks. One thing, dietary recommendations are sent to the patient.

Jodi Cohen: Holistic Minds is for the practitioner, not for the mom That’s listening. That’s like, I want to help my kid.

Pejman Katiraei: For both. Oh, it’s…

Jodi Cohen: For both. Oh, it’s

Pejman Katiraei: Yeah. It helps the providers serve patients, but it’s also for families to now get access to this care.

Jodi Cohen: Oh, I love this. So for all the moms that are listening that are like, oh my goodness, this is my child. This is something I haven’t thought up, they head over to what’s the URL that they can go find it at?

Pejman Katiraei: So wholistic minds, W-H-O-L-I-S-T-I-C, and then MIND s.com. (wholisticminds.com)

Jodi Cohen: This is amazing. This is such a gift. We could talk for hours. I’ll have to have you back, but thank you for everything you’ve shared. I’m sure you’re going to help so many people.

Pejman Katiraei: Thank you. I appreciate that. I know we’ve talked about this before, offline, both of us, just our hearts sink. Sink, we feel sad because there are so many people out there who are struggling. There’s so many people who are desperately looking for answers, whether it’s for themselves or for their kids. My kid has autism, my kid has…

Jodi Cohen: Or their sister or their husband.

Pejman Katiraei: We’ve reached this place where it sadly seems like there are more people who are sick and struggling than people who are healthy and thriving. So part of why I was so happy to join you in this discussion is I know both of us are on the same mission. We want to help people get better, and I’m happy to be here to hopefully help people get there.

Jodi Cohen: Well, I mean, one of the gifts of today is I think there were so many things that you mentioned that resonate that people never considered they could fix. They just assumed, oh, I’m an introvert, or, oh, I’m sensitive to sound. Or, oh, I go to the mall and I can’t stand those bath stores or whatever. It didn’t occur to them like, oh, this could be my histamine overreaction, and I can modulate that. So I feel like that’s a huge gift. Thank you.

Pejman Katiraei: Of course. Of course. And as an extension to what you said, sometimes when families come in and either there’s a reservation and they’re not really sure they want to jump in or whatever else, sometimes what I’ll do is I’ll say, Hey, just take these supplements. Take the America plus or minus the Histamine Digest and give it a few weeks. If after a few weeks, kind of like what you experienced, if after a few weeks, all of a sudden the parent is like, either I’m more calm, right? Oh my God, my anxiety, my irritability, my sensory issues, or my kids’ issues, whether they’re labeled with autism or whatever else get better. That then creates the space to say, well, gosh, okay, things got better. What is now the root cause of all of this stuff that either myself my family member or my kid have been living with for all these years?

And then we go digging to ask the harder questions of like, okay, these supplements worked, and sometimes they work really well. Sometimes they work 30, 50%, and that kind of depends on what’s happening within the gut and the environment. But if the change happened, then let’s ask why all of this happened in the first place and get to that level when even more magical, remarkable changes come, and I mean, I’ve had kids that were failing out of school, literally at the bottom of the, the class suddenly become the top student. They’re reading. Their math skills are off the charts to the point where the teachers are like, what the hell is going on? This kid was flunking. I’ve had a bunch of kids that had what we called regressive autism where eye contact, expressive language, and other things were essentially lost, and now these kids are within a six to 12-month period of time regaining these skills, and it’s all to say, it’s not for me to toot my own horn. It’s more all of these things are possible. There’s so much that’s possible.

Jodi Cohen: Yes, I love that message of hope. No, that’s wonderful. Thank you so much for your time. I appreciate it.

Thank you so much for listening. I hope this podcast empowered you with some useful information and takeaways. If you liked this episode, please consider sharing a positive review or subscribing. I would also love to offer you my free parasympathetic toolkit as a gift just for listening. It will teach you how to activate the most important nerve in your body to turn on your ability to heal. This free toolkit includes a checklist, a video, and a detailed guide. If this podcast prompted any questions, you can always find answers at my blog at vibrantblueoils.com or my book Essential Oils to Boost the Brain and Heal the Body. Until next time, wishing you vibrant Health.



7 Essential Oils for Back Pain

One of the joys of aging and remaining physically active is that sometimes my back lets me know that it needs a break.

I see this as a constant opportunity to test different essential oil blends to see what helps and better understand why it works.  

When it comes to back pain, I have noticed that there are often a number of contributing factors that can combine to create the experience of pain. When I address those underlying factors with the supporting essential oil blend, my discomfort seems to disappear.  

In today’s post, I am excited to share the different oils I use for different situations. All can be combined to support the optimal protocol for your personal needs.

Back pain is defined as pain in the back or the rear portion of the body that extends from the shoulders to the hips. Back pain or discomfort can feel like a dull ache, a sharp pain, a muscle ache, or a burning or stabbing sensation. Pain may also radiate down the leg and may worsen when bending, twisting, lifting, standing, or walking. 

Pain can come on suddenly – from over-exercise or injury or develop slowly. The duration of pain determines whether it is defined as acute (happens suddenly and usually lasts a few days to a few weeks), subacute (pain that lasts between four and 12 weeks), or chronic (pain that persists for 12 weeks or longer). 

Back pain can be extremely varied and affects different people differently, with pain or soreness presenting in different areas of the upper and lower back. Some of the more common symptoms include:

  • Back pain that comes and goes.
  • Pain that can feel dull, burning, sharp, shooting, stabbing, or aching
  • Discomfort that can include stiffness, muscle spasms, numbness, tingling, weakness, or pins and needles
  • Increasing pain with lifting and bending.
  • Worsening pain when resting, sitting, or standing.
  • Pain that radiates away from the back into the buttocks, leg, or hip.
  • Numbness or weakness in your legs or feet.
  • Morning stiffness, difficulty bending, walking, or standing up straight,
  • Worse when bending, twisting, lifting, standing, walking, sitting, or resting, or when you cough, sneeze, or laugh
  • Localized back pain, in the middle or shifted to the side
  • Restricted movement or reduced range of motion
  • Difficulty lying, sitting, standing, or walking for long periods of time
  • Emerging fear-avoidance behavior (you no longer do certain things because you are afraid that they might trigger or aggravate your back problems)
  • Pain when sleeping or once standing up in the morning.
  • Inability to stand up for long periods or worsened pain when you do.
  • Discomfort near the tailbone while sitting, especially when sitting for long periods, such as at work or when driving.

Back pain can be the result of a sports injury, strain from lifting, a car accident, or too much twisting or bending.  It can also be caused by irritation/inflammation of tissues in the musculoskeletal system, including bones, nerves, muscle, fascia, or lymph, along with:

  • Postural problems
  • Muscular strains and/or weakness, or possibly fractures, that cause compensations and added pressure on the back (such as a weak core, tight hamstrings, or weak glutes)
  • Fascia adhesions 
  • Stagnation in the lymphatic system
  • Poor form when exercising
  • Overtraining (over-exercising without enough rest between, especially when stretching is overlooked)
  • Exercise or sports-related injuries or accidents, including pulls or strains
  • Inflexibility and stiffness 
  • Emotional/psychological stress
  • Lack of sleep or sleeping in an uncomfortable sleep position
  • Constipation, which can add pressure to the abdomen and cause muscle spasms
  • Infections of the internal organs (such as kidney stones, kidney infections, blood clots, or bone loss)

Essential oils can be powerful remedies for relief from pain and inflammation.

Topically applied essential oils can easily penetrate layers of the skin, helping to release restricted fascia, creating warmth to break up congestion, increasing circulation, lymphatic drainage, and mobilizing adhered or painful tissue.

Essential oils soften the myofascial tissue, allowing the deep and constrained tissue to stretch and move as it is designed to function. They also have an analgesic effect, relaxing the muscles and reducing pain. Essential oils can be used to revitalize and de-stress the fascia and muscles, working quickly to break down inflamed, fibrous tissue, and remove toxins from the painful area.

As you may know, your experience of pain can be triggered by pain receptors – a group of sensory neurons with specialized nerve endings in your skin, deep tissues, like muscles and joints, and most of your organs – which send a message via nerve fibers to your spinal cord and brain stem and then onto your brain where the sensation of pain is registered and pain is perceived. The chemical constituents of essential oils can help modulate your perception and experience of pain.

Essential oils work as analgesics, which means they relieve pain, relax muscles, reduce inflammation and calm your nerves when topically applied. The chemical composition of essential oils – super small and fat soluble – allows them to bind to and inhibit prostaglandin synthesis (the process that creates/signals pain and inflammation). This is the same channel by which nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) work. This might be one reason that essential oils consistently test as effective as over-the-counter pain medications and pharmacological and clinical studies have demonstrated the profile of essential oil compounds as drug candidates.

Topically applied essential oils may also help to vasodilate your blood and lymphatic vessels which may help improve the flow of fluid that can contribute to swelling and inflammation. Essential oils may also help release facial adhesions, improve circulation, stimulate healthy lymphatic flow, and support regulation of your nervous system.

In addition, smelling essential oils – through your olfactory channel – can also help modulate the perception of pain.

Your sense of smell is directly connected with your perception of pain.

When you inhale essential oils, the odor molecules travel to the part of the limbic system known as the amygdala. Your amygdala is both an important mediator for pain reception and the part of your brain most often linked to the emotional aspects of olfaction perception.

Olfactory stimulation can directly activate your amygdala and modulate the perception of chronic pain processing pathways. “This direct connection may be important for survival due to the urgency of interrupting pain reception and danger signals,” according to Sarah A. LoBisco, ND in her Townsend Letter article Olfaction’s Complex Connections of Emotions, Memory, and Pain Perception.

In other words, pain is a perceived signal that is either passed on through descending pain pathways with an associated emotional response or modulated, which can calm pain perception.  Research shows that “pain may result from signaling disturbances in the amygdala… Therefore, it has been suggested that the amygdala may serve as a “hot spot” in supraspinal descending pain control, switching on and off chronic pain.”

“Furthermore, it has been shown that corticotrophin-releasing factor (CRF) upregulated in the limbic structures is associated with neuropathic pain as well as mood disorders, such as anxiety and depression. This is likely to be independent of hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis stimulation. Therefore, olfaction could potentially impact central pain response through modulation of physiological feedback.”

Your sense of smell, and the use of essential oils, is a powerful tool to help switch off the perception of pain.

The following 7 essential oil blends may help both alleviate symptoms and address the underlying root cause of your back pain.

Fascial tension may result in pain and loss of mobility in and around your back. Fascia contains more pain receptors than muscles, is closely linked to your autonomic nervous system, and forwards continuous signals to the brain.

Your fascia surrounds the tissues in your body, encasing nerves, muscles, tendons, joints, blood vessels, lymph, and bones and in many cases is a key factor in all physical pain, muscle tension, or even chronic pain.

Fascia can help with functional movement by reducing friction between structures. The collagen that makes up fascia is organized in a wavy pattern.  Healthy fascia layers are flexible and can slide over one another. When pulled, these lines of tissue resist tensile and shear loads, helping to keep your body parts together.

Stress and tension can limit flexibility and the fascia can become matted and form hardened areas, called adhesions. Fascial adhesions or hardened and adhered fascia – which can no longer slide smoothly – lead to restricted movement and back pain – especially if the fascia becomes so thick that nerves constrict. Fascial compartments may also become tight and not allow for normal movement of lymph and blood into and out of the compartment, contributing to pain and swelling.

As you may know, fascia lies just below the skin, so topically applying essential oils to the skin allows for easy and immediate access to the fascia. The skin is your largest organ and is relatively permeable to fat-soluble substances like essential oils that can permeate the tissue and may help release adhesions and fascial restriction, increase circulation, and decrease swelling in the tissue around the back.

The essential oils in the Fascia Release™ blend are uniquely formulated to unravel deeply held tensions, constrictions, and energetic blockages in your tissues to reduce pain, improve blood and lymphatic circulation, and release fear, repressed emotions, and tension held in the body (organs, muscles, tendons, bones, and joints) or the mind.

Fascia Release™ contains Lavender™ oil which possesses analgesic, anti-inflammatory, anti-convulsant and antispasmodic properties, making it a great choice for calming pain. It is known to increase blood circulation, reduce inflammation, and calm nervous tension and nerve pain. Lavender™ also helps to soothe other symptoms associated with physical injuries, such as headaches, migraines, nausea, and depression. 

Research backs this up, finding that applying Lavender™ oil topically for pain relief was just as effective as some pharmaceutical anti-inflammatories and analgesics. Research found that Lavender™ effectively reduced pain immediately after the treatment, and remained lowered at 1 week post-treatment. Lavender™ also helps calm anxiety and relieve nervous tension to make pain from the injury more manageable. Inhaling lavender also had a morphine-like effect in patients recovering from surgery. The study also found that lavender was effective in reducing migraine pain and relieving lower back pain and neck pain.

One of the most well-known essential oils for pain relief is clove oil contained in the Parasympathetic® blend. Clove has been used throughout history to relieve pain. For example, the strong local anesthetic effect of clove oil has been used in dental practices for centuries to numb the gums, teeth, and nerves and relieve pain like toothaches.

Clove oil makes an ideal natural pain-killer due to its anti-inflammation, antispasmodic and analgesic properties.  It can be applied topically to warm muscles and increase circulation which helps reduce pain and ease tension to sore muscles and sprains.

What’s more, clove’s high eugenol content is thought to block nerve signals that send the message of pain from the body to the brain, thus giving the user a break from pain. Parasympathetic® oil can be used to reduce the body’s inflammatory response (Read More HERE).

Similarly, the warming characteristic of clove oil is thought to provide numbing relief from pain and the antioxidants found in this oil assist in the protection of body cells. Further, a rat study conducted by the Journal of Planta Medica discovered that a chemical compound present in clove essential oil was successful at recovering nerve functions of rats with diabetic neuropathy.

Thirty-one pairs of nerves are rooted in the spinal cord, which can cause radiating pain downward or outward. Fortunately, the Nerve Repair™ blend may help repair damaged nerves, relieve pain, stimulate circulation, ease inflammation, and regenerate new cells.   

Formulated from organic and/or wild-crafted essential oils known for relieving pain and repairing and regenerating damaged nerve cells and connective tissue. For example, basil essential oil is a known nerve tonic, characterized by its analgesic, antidepressant, antispasmodic, and balancing properties. Deemed a divine plant by Hindus in India, basil is a significant ingredient in the treatments used to combat nerve pain and nerve damage.

In a research study published in the Journal of Ethnopharmacology, Basil oil was concluded as being particularly helpful in reducing nerve damage symptoms and increasing nerve receptivity. Simultaneously beneficial in calming nerve pain and offering stimulation to nerves, it is regularly used to treat skin conditions, indigestion, stress levels, blood circulation issues, respiratory problems, and certain infections. It also helps repair connective tissue.

Peppermint™ essential oils are known to possess analgesic, anti-inflammatory, and anti-spasmodic properties that relieve aches, pain, and inflammation as well as calm the spasms that cause muscle cramps, making it an ideal natural treatment for nerve pain.  In fact, a 2002  study attributed Peppermint™ oil’s dramatic analgesic influence to the relief of neuropathic pain in a 76-year-old woman.

Peppermint™ contains menthol, a cooling phenol that has powerful pain-blocking, anti-inflammatory, and antispasmodic properties. Menthol naturally warms the skin and muscles to improve circulation in the area of numbness or discomfort. This improved blood circulation stimulates the nerves and helps to heal damaged and injured nerves. Although other mints have a cooling analgesic effect, peppermint has by far the highest concentration. Peppermint™ can be purchased as both a single oil and as part of the Nerve Repair™ blend.

Renowned for its pain-relieving properties and ability to accelerate healing, Helichrysum™ helps to strengthen the nervous system, relieving nerve pain while regenerating and healing damaged nerves. Known for its antispasmodic, anti-inflammatory, and mild sedative properties, Helichrysum™ has been used historically as a treatment for muscle spasms, decreasing nerve pain, helping repair connective tissue, and reducing swelling and inflammation both inside and outside the body.

You can even apply Helichrysum™ oil directly to an injury to reduce muscle pain and prevent bruising.

The Journal of Pharmacy and Pharmacology found that the pain-relieving power of helichrysum works by reducing inflammatory enzymes and reduce swelling.  As it helps rebuild cells, it may be beneficial in nerve regeneration following injury or in the treatment of peripheral neuropathy, shingles, nerve pain related to burns and even hearing damage caused by nerves. We sell Helichrysum™ as both a single oil (my mother swears by it) and as part of our Nerve Repair™ blend. As we only work with the highest quality oil from Corsica, our single oil is a very expensive oil.

Designed to reduce inflammation and encourage regeneration of damaged or stressed connective tissues. Anti-Inflammatory™ is especially helpful for calming inflammation in protective tissues around nerves, reducing the inflammatory compression that contributes to nerve pain. Anti-Inflammatory™ contains Ylang-ylang which has healing properties that repair nerve damage.  

It also includes Frankincense™ which is known for its anti-inflammatory, analgesic, and sedative properties. Frankincense™ has been shown to improve the accurate transmission and communication of messages between the nerves and the brain. Incorrect sensory messages can result in nerve pain, so improving the accuracy of signals can eliminate pain.

The Journal of Ethnopharmacology in 2016 published a study showing how Frankincense™ has pain-reducing qualities. The oil works to block COX-2 (an enzyme connected with inflammation) and “exhibits significant anti-inflammatory and analgesic effects.”

In a 2003 study, patients with osteoarthritis knee pain were given either frankincense essential oil or a placebo. The group that was given the frankincense essential oil reported improved knee movement, better range of motion, increased ability to walk for longer distances, and an overall significant decrease in knee pain.

Anti-Inflammatory™ also contains ginger, an excellent antioxidant that helps reduce inflammation and kill bacteria to heal infectious areas.   Ginger oil is a rubefacient which means it is warming in nature, which helps dilate your capillaries and increase blood circulation

It’s particularly good for chronic joint pain, stiff muscles, and tendons and ligaments that need softening. Ginger works by directly inhibiting vanilloid receptors to soothe nerve pain, increase blood flow, bring down inflammation, and relieve achy types of pain when applied topically. Apply 2-3 drops of Anti-Inflammatory™ to any inflamed area of the body, or the bottom of the feet, 3x daily.

Your adrenal glands produce several hormones, including cortisol which is released to help the body manage stress and pain. High cortisol levels raise prolactin levels, increasing the body’s sensitivity to pain, such as backaches.

Research has shown that elevated levels of cortisol increase visceral pain sensitivity in healthy individuals. Adrenal® blend is designed to help balance the adrenals so they don’t release too much or too little cortisol, which can help manage pain.

What’s more, your Adrenal glands directly impact some of the muscles that manage the lower back and hip, including your Sartorius muscle, which is a major pelvic stabilizer. High levels of stress can create tension in the muscles causing them to stiffen or lock up resulting in back pain.

You can topically apply 1- 2 drops of Adrenal® on the adrenal glands (on the lower mid-back, one fist above the 12th rib on each side).

READ THIS NEXT: 12 Ways Your Adrenal Glands Support Health

Circulation™ helps support the delivery of oxygen and nutrient-rich blood to the site of injury to help speed healing and pain relief.  Formulated to support healthy circulation to deliver oxygen and nutrient-rich blood to the body and the brain, while simultaneously carrying toxins and waste away from the cells to be eliminated, the Circulation™ blend may help open the vasculature to allow for optimal blood flow to both carry healing oxygen and nutrients to cells and allow a painful and inflamed area to heal faster.

Circulation™ contains powerful oils known to support bone repair, including Cypress oil which is an anti-spasmodic known to improve circulation and reduce fatigue and stress. Similarly, Nutmeg oil soothes pain, and research proving its anti-inflammatory properties in reducing pain and swelling.

Black pepper is known as one of the best oils for alleviating deep tissue pain by warming muscles and increasing blood flow to the injury while reducing inflammation and pain. Black Pepper in combination with ginger essential oil in the Circulation™ helps enhance circulation, reduces inflammation and blocks pain.  The heat of these oils is known to speed up the healing process.

Apply 2- 3 drops of Circulation™ on the sides or back of the neck, over the left clavicle, and on the wrists or ankles to help increase blood flow.

Supporting the movement of lymphatic fluid helps to stimulate healing in injured areas.  It helps supply the tissues with oxygen and nutrients.  It also helps purge used tissue water, along with its metabolic waste products, that can contribute to inflammation and swelling.

Your lymphatic system is critical for moving metabolic waste, toxins, and infections out of the cells via the lymphatic fluid.  It serves a dual role as a detoxification pathway and an important part of the immune system to help heal injuries.  Interstitial lymph fluid permeates every part of the body and flows through the lymph nodes where toxins are filtered out, acting as a pre-filter for the liver to prevent clogging and liver overload.  The lymphatic system also helps carry nutrients, oxygen, hormones, and other healing substances into every cell.

Unfortunately, the lymphatic system doesn’t have a pump, and lymphatic fluid can accumulate and stagnate (learn more about the Lymphatic System here).  This stagnation can be due to an overload of acidity, animal protein, gluten, infection, toxins, or adhesions of the connective tissue, such as scars.

The more you can help the lymph fluid flow, the more quickly you can heal injuries and remove toxins that contribute to pain and inflammation of the body.  To support lymphatic drainage and movement, generously apply Lymph™ around the sides of the neck, under the left clavicle, in the armpits, and in the groin.  For more tips to improve lymphatic function, read this article.



Season 4, Episode 13: Productivity Hacks with Tanya Dalton

Jodi Cohen: Hello and welcome to Essential Alchemy. Alchemy is defined as the power or process that changes or transforms something in a mysterious or impressive way. My hope is that the information in this podcast can help you transform your mood, energy, physical health, or even some dots to help you shift your mental or emotional state. I’m your host, Jodi Cohen, a bestselling author, award-winning journalist, functional practitioner, lifelong learner, and founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, a company that sells proprietary blends of high-quality, organic, or wildcrafted essential oil remedies designed to help you return to your ideal mental, physical, and emotional state. You can find out more about me and my company at vibrantblueoils.com. And with that, let’s get started with today’s episode.

Hi, I’m Jodi Cohen and I am your host, and I’m super excited to bring you, my dear friend, Tanya Dalton, who is going to blow your mind with her knowledge about time management, calming, overwhelm, really actionable, no rocket science tips, no rocket Science is her podcast. And Tanya is a bestselling author, motivational speaker, nationally recognized productivity expert who you might’ve seen on the Today Show. She empowers executives and entrepreneurs to embrace intentional leadership. Welcome.

Tanya Dalton: Season 4, Episode 13: Productivity Hacks with Tanya Dalton Jodi Cohen: And I forgot to mention your book. You want to hold it up from the background?

Tanya Dalton: Sure. I’ve got two books, Joy of Missing Out Back here. I’ll grab it real quick. The joy of Missing Out is my first book, and yes, that picture I think says it. All right. That’s how we all feel; we’re trying to do everything. Yes, it really is about finding more joy in our daily life. I think there’s a lot of happiness, a lot of joy in the cracks and crevices of everyday life, but we’re so busy that we’re missing it, right? So it’s actively choosing to miss out on the things you don’t really want to do. My second book is on Purpose. So on Purpose, the Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success. And so the joy of missing Out is really about how you find more Joy. What does that look like? How do you create days that feel meaningful? And then on purpose, how do you create that vision of where you want to go? And then what goals do you set? How do you figure out what you want to do? So they kind of go together, but they also can be read separately.

Jodi Cohen: Well, and it really speaks to me. I feel like I wasted so many years when my kids were little like the hamster on the wheel. It was like task, task, task, sleep, rinse, repeat. And in hindsight like, oh my God, wow, did that go quickly? And I wish I had really leaned in and enjoyed it more. Can you speak to that a little bit?

Tanya Dalton: Yeah, I think there’s that whole saying that the days are long, but the years are short. And I think people say that to you when you’re pregnant and when your kids are little and you’re like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I just want to shower. I just want to be able to go to the bathroom by myself without anyone else in the room. And then one day you find yourself being able to go to the bathroom alone and you’re like, wait, where is everybody? Where your house is clean, like meticulously clean. You’re like kind of miss the mess.

It’s funny, the things that we wish for we eventually get, and then we kind of want to go back and revisit what we missed. And I think that’s the thing is we get so caught up in all the things that we think we’re supposed to do or should do that we’re not really taking the time to soak in the meaning to soak in the moment and be present fully. And for me, that’s really one of the things I like to talk to people about. I call my substack not rocket science because a lot of what I teach is not rocket science. It’s not difficult. It’s really easy to implement, and simple to manage, but monumental in the impact it makes on your daily life. And it is small things. One of the things I talk about in the joy of missing out is this concept of million-dollar minutes.

I call them million-dollar minutes because they’re these little slips of time in our day that if they were gone tomorrow, I know I would pay a million dollars to get them back. So it’s the little tiny things. Like for me, one of my million-dollar minutes is a lot of times I like to get up early, I like to write. And so I get up early in the morning and I write, and I’m doing a couple of things for myself. I make sure the kids are up and moving, and then I go and slip back into bed, which seems kind of funny, but I slide back into bed next to my husband because he’s just waking up and we spend 10 minutes lying side by side in bed talking about what we dreamed about the night before or what we have going on in the day.

And to me, those 10 minutes are worth a million dollars or more, quite frankly. So it’s really 10 minutes of intention with my marriage. And so it’s when you start to recognize that these million dollar minutes are scattered throughout your day, it’s when Kay comes home from school, she’s 17, she’s my youngest right now, she’s 17. So she comes home and if she says, Hey mom, lemme give you a little tea. Lemme tell you what’s going on at school. I’m like, stop the presses. I don’t care what I’m doing. I need to give you my full attention because I know that this is really valuable, even if it’s people I don’t even know what she’s talking about or what’s going on. It’s me being attentive to her and receiving and giving her love. So it’s these tiny moments, and that’s what I think really stretches the time.

Tanya Dalton: I think so often we feel like we don’t have the time, and the truth is we all have the same 24 hours. You, me, Beyonce, we all have 24 of all the inequities in our world. Time is the one thing that is completely doled out evenly to every single one of us. It’s all about how you choose to spend your time. So understanding and acknowledging the choices that we’re making that I’m choosing to stop what I’m doing, to listen to my daughter, or I’m choosing to spend 10 minutes to focus with intention on my marriage, that time is not just going to happen. It’s not going to like, oh, fall in my lap. I have to create that time. I have to carve it out and really prioritize it. And if I don’t, it’ll slip by. So that’s one of the things. It’s like those little things, right?

Jodi Cohen: It really is. Those are the two. I do the exact same thing with the guy I’m dating and with my daughter. Every time she calls, I just drop it. But I’m curious. I went through a process of really prioritizing what I value. How do I, and I actually run everything through that filter of if I’m

making a decision, how does it line up with my values? I’m curious how you kind of coach people through this.

Tanya Dalton: Yeah, so I do the same thing. I use what I call the North Star, which is our mission, our vision, and our core values. So my mission or your mission is not what you do, it’s why you do it. I think if we get caught up in what we do, it feels very mechanical and it doesn’t have any purpose behind it. So for example, with you, Jodi, with your oils, it’s not about you don’t sell oils, you help people find health. You help people find sleep. You help them feel better so that they can show up and be the best version of themselves, right? Exactly. That’s your mission. It’s not about selling the oils, it’s why you do what you do. So that’s the first part of the star. Second part is the vision. So if the mission is the why, what vision is, where are we going?

Where is it I want to go? So often we just kind of wing it and we just, I don’t know. I don’t know where I’m going, what’s going on. It’s like getting in the car and expecting to drive to Disneyland or something, and not having a map or not having not mapped out ahead of time, you’re going to get lost. So where do you want to go? And then your core values, and that answers, who do I want to get there? How do I want to live? How do I want to present myself? How do I want to behave? And so through using that filter of your mission, your vision, and your core values, it becomes really clear what is your yes, right? I think so often we hear that we need to say no more often, and I would agree with that, but we also need to say yes more often.

I think we need to hear more yeses. And the thing is, a lot of times we’re saying yes, out of obligation or out of expectation, someone asks us, Hey, can you bake 75 dozen brownies for the bake fair? Sure, I can do that. Even though you don’t have time. We say yes out of that obligation, but every time we’re saying yes, we’re saying no to something else.

Tanya Dalton: And a lot of times the things we’re saying no to are our family, our personal passion projects, our own goals, the things that we really want to do with our time. We’re saying no to those. So recognizing every time you say yes, you’re saying no to something else. Let’s choose our yeses. Let’s decide what we want to say yes to. And in the joy of missing out, I actually have a little blueprint called the finding your Yes blueprint. And I’ll tell you this in the Finding Your Yes Blueprint, the first question is not, do you have the time? The second question is not, do you have the time? The third question is not, do you have the time? The first question are, how do I feel about this? Do I want to do this? Does this line up with my mission, my vision, my core values, my North Star…

Jodi Cohen: Right.

Tanya Dalton: We have to go through these other filters because so often we will say to ourselves, with the 72 dozen brownies for the bake fair, we’ll say, oh, I’ve got the time. Even though you don’t have the time, we’ll say, yes, I have the time. And really the question is, do I like to bake brownies? Do I support this cause, right? Is this something that’s meaningful to me? And let’s say it is a cause that you really like. Let’s say it’s to support your child’s school. Is brownie baking what you like to do? Or is there something else you could do instead? Could you pass out flyers for the bake sale? Could you say no to this and say yes to something else that the school does? So really being mindful of where we’re putting our yeses and choosing yeses that feel right to us, I think is a really big thing.

Jodi Cohen: What a proactive approach to mental health, because so many of us, say yes to things we don’t want to do, and then we dread it or we have anxiety about it, or we procrastinate and don’t show up in the way that was our best self. This is brilliant because you’re alleviating problems before you agree to them,

Tanya Dalton: Right. Because that’s the thing is if you’re feeling resentful or irritated, are you really giving them the best you possible? Probably not. And you’re certainly not giving your kids your best, you or your spouse, your significant other, or your friends, because you’re irritated and grumpy that you have to bake these stupid brownies.

Jodi Cohen: To boundaries a little bit. Absolutely. People get really confused. What do boundaries mean? Just saying no to people. No, it’s prioritizing what your yeses are.

Tanya Dalton: It is, it’s prioritizing what is truly important to you. I like to say productivity is not about doing more. It’s doing what’s most important. So choose what is most important to you. But I think a lot of times we feel uncomfortable with saying no. That’s one of the things is we’re like, oh, but I don’t want to say no. And we mix up the request with the relationship, right? We’re like, oh, they’re really nice. So I want to say yes. Meanwhile, we’re resentful and we’re irritated, all those things. So I like to tell people, first of all, to have a go-to phrase that you can say when someone asks you to do something. Because a lot of times you get asked in the hallway at work, you get asked on the sidelines of the soccer field, you get asked, you don’t know what to say, so you just say yes.

And then five seconds afterward, you’re like, why did I say yes to that? So I like to say, when someone gives me a request for my time, I’ll say, oh, that’s such a great opportunity. I need to go check my calendar. Or Let me think about it. I have several things going on right now. I want to make sure I can prioritize it. So when I’m saying no to them, or I’m giving them myself some space to step back and assess it and see if I want to do it, I’m already making them feel good about it by saying, I want to make, I can prioritize this because I know this is important. And then when I’m saying no to someone, because it’s not my priority but theirs, I will use what I call the sandwich strategy, which is like a sandwich, two slices of bread, two slices of kindness.

The meat in the middle is the no. So I’ll say something like, I’ll start with the kindness. Thank you so much for thinking of me for this opportunity. I really love what you guys are doing there with whatever the organization is. Unfortunately, right now, I just am not able to have the bandwidth to be able to commit to this, and I would love to because it’s such a priority. I know I really want

to be able to support you guys in the future. Let me know what I can do for you some other time. So it’s two pieces of kindness with that solid knowing there’s no maybe or I’m not sure. It’s like I can’t commit to that, and I make it really clear, but I also elevate their cause, their thing that they want to do. I can’t prioritize that. And it deserves to be a priority.

Jodi Cohen: I love that. I occasionally have social anxiety, and it’s really correlated to disappointing people. People are always asking me to do things that are not on my yes list, and I don’t know how to politely say no. So I love having the script in advance. That’s wonderful.

Tanya Dalton: It helps because truly we will say yes when we don’t know what else to say. And then we’re like, oh, why did I say yes to that thing? I have no interest in it. And then we feel stuck. And so what I would also tell you is we’re never stuck. Even if you said yes to something, go back to them and say, listen, I’m not going to be able to do this to the best of my abilities. You deserve to have this done really well. I’m going to need to back out and maybe help them find somebody else to take the place. Or I can do something else.

 

Tanya Dalton: For example, with the bake sale, as I said, maybe it’s, you know what? I can probably do the flyers. I can help with that. Or I can help process the checks afterward, find some other way that you can help, that fits what you want to say yes to.

Jodi Cohen: Well, and I think so many of us as pleasers do confuse the request with the relationship. And we’re afraid that the person won’t like us if we say no.

Tanya Dalton: Yes, we do so much out of people pleasing, don’t we? Because we don’t want people to be disappointed in us. And I think that’s the thing that really holds us back a lot of times. But would we rather show up as our best selves or our grumpiest most irritable selves because we’re not happy about what we’re doing? So when we show up and say yes to the right things, we show up as our best mom, best person, best spouse, best friend, best community member, and best neighbor, when we are feeling really good about what we’re doing. So when we think about it, it really is helpful to everybody else. There’s this effect that’s been scientifically proven called the halo effect, that how we behave affects everybody around us. It’s our blast radius. So when we’re irritated, we’re grumpy, we’re feeling overwhelmed. That bleeds into how our family feels, and how the other people we interact with feel our coworkers feel. And if instead, we choose to take care of ourselves and we start doing things that make us feel good and healthy and well rested and all those things, that halo effect is also there. The people around us start paying attention, and they start mimicking and doing the things that we are doing, and we can really be a change, a force for good.

Jodi Cohen: I’ve noticed that even in my company when I start to think more self-care because then I think there’s no resentment. So you’re just always more respectful with people.

Tanya Dalton: It’s so much easier to give, I think. I like to say, we can’t shine our light on others if our battery needs recharging, and if we’re not taking care of ourselves, our battery is just flickering and going out, and then we’re irritated about trying to even shine the light. We’re just so tired. So taking care of yourself really is a gift for everyone else. It really shouldn’t be called self, self-care, because it is community care. When we all take care of ourselves, we can all take care of each other. And I think that the rising tide lifts all the boats. That’s true for us as well.

Jodi Cohen: Well, and I love the way you’re kind of rethinking productivity and overwhelm. It’s almost the antithesis of what most people say. Get up earlier. No pain, no gain, do more. Can you…

Tanya Dalton: Hustle? Hustle.

Jodi Cohen: Yeah. Of some of your favorite tips?

Tanya Dalton: Oh yeah. I mean, this is the thing I’m very anti-hustles culture, which I think is kind of the drive today where it’s like, just dig in and do more. And if you’re not, no pain, no gain. If you’re not growing, you’re dying. And so I think to me, it’s like, gosh, that doesn’t sound like how I want to live at all.

Jodi Cohen: But…

Tanya Dalton: People are disciplined. You have to be disciplined. And that’s a big one for me, is people always will say to me, oh, I’m just not disciplined. I’m like, discipline is boring. Discipline is way overrated. I mean, I don’t want to be disciplined. I like to have the freedom to be able to do things. And that’s what good productivity allows you to do. It’s not stifling, it’s not rigid. It’s a little bit of structure. It’s a little bit of scaffolding to help hold you up. I like to say it’s our bridges and buildings we build that have that flexibility built in for the high winds of life and that are going to withstand tornadoes and things like that. We need that with our productivity. So building in that grace. And one of the best ways to do that, quite frankly, is mapping out your day, but not doing that at one time.

At the beginning of the week, I teach a process that I call the five Ps. The first P is to purge it out of your brain, get it out on a sheet of paper, and just brain dump it. Don’t worry about the order of it, don’t worry about what it looks like. Just write it on the sheet of paper. And then we want to process. We want to process each day as it comes. So what we do a lot of times is we sit down on Sunday and we’re like, here’s what I’m doing Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and we map out the whole week. And then we wonder why we feel like we’re behind half the week. Well, okay, let’s say Monday was fantastic and we got a lot of things done, and it feels amazing. Tuesday, maybe you have a sick kid who crawls into your bed at three o’clock in the morning and you don’t get any sleep.

Or maybe you wake up with allergies or you know what? Maybe it’s just a rough day and you don’t get as much done. Well, if you’ve already mapped out what you’re doing Tuesday and you don’t get that done, and you mapped out Wednesday, you wake up Wednesday morning already feeling behind, and then Thursday, there’s just that whole snowball effect. So I like to say, get up in the morning, think about how you feel right now, and then set an intention for the day. How do I want to feel at the end of the day? What’s that feeling I want to have? And then you map out and you write down three to five things that you want to accomplish that day to actually get that feeling at the end of the day. So don’t map out your whole week process each day as it comes.

Tanya Dalton: Some days you’re going to wake up and you’re going to say, today’s rough. I just, I’m tired. I don’t feel good. Let’s put less on your plate. Maybe you wake up and you’re like, oh my gosh, I got up. I had my walk. I did some yoga. I read my book. I did my journal. I did some amazing things. I’m ready to get going. And it’s like, all right, let’s put a few more things on your plate for that day. Let’s pay attention to how we feel instead of just doing the things we think we’re supposed to do. And really, that idea, that concept of focusing on that feeling at the end of the day is huge for me. Because some days I want to feel present at the end of the day. Let’s say that my daughter has a sports activity that night. Maybe she has a volleyball game or a soccer game or something.

I want to be fully present. So that means what do I need to get done so I can be fully present? I can shut the door of work behind me and focus. Maybe it’s that I want to feel prepared because I have a big client meeting the next day. All right? If I want to feel prepared at the end of the day, let me think about what things I need to get done so I feel prepared, right? Think about what the emotion is that you want to feel. Now the trick here is you don’t always use the same word. You can’t just say successful, right? That’s pretty loose and easy, and it’s kind of a give-up. So really be intentional with how you want to feel for that day. Think about what you want that night to feel like, and then, all right, these are the activities. They’re going to help me do that. And so process each day as it comes that way, really think that through.

Jodi Cohen: No, I love that. That’s actually what I do. I have a little Post-it pad, and I just pick three things, and then if I do all of them, then I pick three more.

Tanya Dalton: That’s a great way to do it instead of making a giant. Well, this is the thing people want to make a giant.

Jodi Cohen: I did have a giant list, but on the post-it, I only have those three things.

Tanya Dalton: So that’s like your purge list. That’s your P. Yeah because that third P, so I said the first P was purge. The second one is process. The third one is to prioritize what are the priorities? Instead of having a to-do list, what are the things I really want to do? And I teach people in the book how you can do the priority list. It’s very simple. I call it A to-do list with intention, your post-it notes are a perfect example. What do I want to prioritize? What are the three things? And when you accomplish those, then you go to the next three. That’s perfect. Yeah.

Jodi Cohen: Yes. And I do like to put little check boxes next to things because I really,

Tanya Dalton: Oh, we love to check things off. That’s our little dopamine hit in our brain. That feels so good.

Jodi Cohen: Yes. These are amazing tips. Is there anything else that we haven’t talked about you want to share?

Tanya Dalton: Oh my gosh. Well, I mean, I have two books worth and 300 podcast episodes worth of things I could talk about. But really it comes down to that phrase that is really the mantra of everything I teach is productivity is not about doing more. It’s doing what’s most important. So figure out, and get super clear on what is most important to you. That could be as simple as just making a brain dump of what are the things I really love. What are the things that I really want to accomplish? I actually just posted on my substack, not rocket science. I posted a little activity that you can do about your essential needs. What are the things that you need each day? And that helps give you some clarity of what are the things that are important for you that you’re making sure you prioritize.

Jodi Cohen: I love that exercise. Social Connection.

Tanya Dalton: Well, I’m big on little activities. I like to make sure everything I teach is actionable because it doesn’t do us any good to have a bunch of theories I love to look at scientific studies and understand how your brain works, and that’s great, but how do we apply it? How do we make that work for us?

Jodi Cohen: No, I love that. Give some examples of the things you need every day.

Tanya Dalton: Oh, the different things that you need. Well, some people need outside time. I’m a person who needs to go outside every day. Ideally, I like to go barefoot if I can. It’s hard to do when it’s in the middle of winter. But during the spring, summer, and fall, I am outside every day. And that might mean eating my lunch outside. It might mean just going and taking a 10-minute break to walk around for a few minutes. It might mean even if I can’t go outside raining, just go and sit and look outside and maybe even read a book while I’m doing it. Some people have a need for being with other people. And I think that’s an interesting one because some people just need to be in a space with other people versus interacting. So that’s a really interesting essential need that people a lot of times don’t recognize.

They think, well, I’m not very good at studying at the library. I never could do that in college. Or I’m not very good at working alone. But they go and work at a coffee shop, they build off the energy that’s already there in that space with all the other people.

Tanya Dalton: So those are a couple of needs. There are 21 all told. There can be the need for learning and exploring, trying to really grow yourself, whether we’re talking mentally or with your career or spiritual opportunities for growth. There are all kinds of needs. So it’s really getting clear on what is unique for you that you need, and then making sure that you’re filling that up. I think a lot of times people do think self-care is like mud masks and bubble baths and pedicures, and those are all fantastic, and I do enjoy them. However, we have these deeper needs that when those are met, physical touch is another one. Maybe you’re in a space where you like to have physical touch or a lot of our love languages, the words of affirmation, recognition, what is important to you that you need that fills up your love tank and makes you feel really good. And then we can show up as our best selves for everybody else.

Jodi Cohen: I absolutely love that. And you’re right, everyone does think of self-care as like a bubble bath.

Tanya Dalton: We do. We do. And again, listen, I have no qualms against bubble baths, but I mean, I’m a big fan, but we have these other things. And I think having this very narrow definition of what it is, are you and I talked about last time I saw you in person, that idea, and you just told me that you were doing that writing down with the dry erase marker of how you want to feel each day. That’s a form of self-care.

Jodi Cohen: I do mirror in the bathroom.

Tanya Dalton: I love it. That’s one of the things that’s been a habit for me, is I write down a word of the day about how I want to feel. What’s my intention for the day? You write it with a dry erase marker in the bathroom because you put it on the mirror, you write it as you’re brushing your teeth and you think about it. And then that helps me as I’m going through my day, I’m thinking about that word. How am I embodying it? And then when I go to bed at night and I’m gearing up to go to bed and I’m brushing my teeth and washing my face, I’m going to look at the mirror and guess what’s on the mirror? My word. And I look at that word and I think, okay, did I live to that word today? Did I do the things I needed to do to feel that way? And then what’s a beautiful thing is you take your rag and you just wipe it off. Tomorrow’s a clean day. Tomorrow is a fresh start. So even if today felt like it didn’t go the way you wanted it to, even if today felt hard and difficult, good night’s sleep, especially if you’re using your oils right, Jodi, good night’s sleep. And then tomorrow is a brand new day with a brand new intention. And it’s okay if yesterday didn’t go.

Jodi Cohen: Okay, today’s now the easiest way to kind of Marie Kondo your life, as opposed to, is this bringing me joy? Does this align with my word? Am I on track?

Tanya Dalton: Well, the question is, does my life spark joy? I actually just asked that in my podcast this last episode. I took a radical sabbatical where I took a lot of time off to really rest up, take a look at how I’m living. Do I like what I’m doing? Do I like where I’m going? And just kind assess. And so I came back and we talked about does your life sparks joy. Because so often we’re thinking about the items in our house sparking joy, but my gosh, the one thing should spark joy in your world. It’s your life that doesn’t make me happy. And if the answer is no, or if the answer is no, very often we need to stop and take a good look at it, right? Let’s do a quick little assessment and see what’s keeping me from feeling happy. What is stifling some of this joy?

Every single one of us deserves to be happy. Every single one of us deserves joy in our lives. And yes, we have hard seasons. Every single one of us goes through these trenches of life. But if you take the time to map out your own life map, you’ll see there’s going to be trenches. But there are also mountains, right? And we can’t have the mountains if we don’t have the trenches. And so it really does remind us that there is a lot of joy out there. We have to choose to see it. Some days it’s really, really damn hard to find. On other days it’s easier, but taking the time to really intentionally choose, makes a huge difference. And allowing your life to feel joyful.

Jodi Cohen: What I heard you saying, it’s kind of in the trenches. We don’t make changes when we’re happy or when everything’s kind of okay enough. It’s only when it gets bad enough that you’re like, this is intolerable. I have to do something different. And so what I love about your strategies is we all feel like we have to go to our job. We have all these time commitments, and we don’t see where we have flexibility within that, but we do. And I love that.

Tanya Dalton: We do. We do. It’s all in how you look at it too. My son right now is working at a job. He’s in a gap year, and he’s working right now because he’s getting ready to go to Europe for a couple of months. He’s going to backpack through Europe, and he’s mapping it all out. He’s paying for it. And he said to me the other day, he said, I’m just really frustrated. My job doesn’t have any meaning. And I’m like, okay, tell me more about that. Tell me more about how your job doesn’t have meaning. And he’s like, well, I serve food for people and it’s no big deal and it has no meaning. It has no purpose. And I said, okay, that’s a really interesting thing to think about. I said, what is your job doing for you? What are you making money for?

He said, well, I’m making money so I can go on this trip. And I said, oh, okay. So the meaning behind the job can be that it’s affording you to go on a two-month trip through Europe, where you’re going to grow, you’re going to explore. You’re going to do all these amazing things that are going to help you grow. Couldn’t the meaning or the purpose behind your job be as simple as that? Sometimes your job can be the place where you find a lot of meaning, and it’s through the work that you’re doing.

Tanya Dalton: I know, Jodi, you and I both feel that way about the work that we do. Sometimes your job is the vehicle for the meaning. It allows us to go and explore. It allows us to go out and do amazing things in our world, and it’s not the job itself, but what the job allows us to do.

So I told him, I want you to make a little list of this is how much the train tickets cost. This is how much it is to stay at a hostel for a week. I said I want you to make little check boxes. He makes like, I don’t know, $15 an hour. I go make little check boxes that are $15 and then check them off every time I do an hour of work. And I want you to see how that’s getting you closer to your trip to Europe. And he was like, oh. And I think this is the thing, especially with our younger kids. I say younger, he’s 20, almost 21 with our kids today, is they’re hearing that your job has to have meaning. There has to be a purpose. I’m a big advocate of that. But sometimes your job, that’s the vehicle. If you own a business, your business is the vehicle for the life you want.

Your business is not the end all be all. It’s what your business allows you to do. It’s what your job allows you to do. That’s part of that purpose and meaning. So it is a little bit of reframing and looking at things a little bit differently. I think often we’re just kind of stuck in this mindset of there’s one way, this is how we do things. This is what life looks like. This is the routine. This is what I’m supposed to do when I’ve done this. Then one day I’ll be happy. And instead, let’s step outside of ourselves. Let’s observe like we do in meditation, and let’s choose how we want to view our world because that influences everything. So for my son now, he’s like, oh, okay. So I don’t mind so much going for work because I just got two train tickets to Austria, or I just got, so it is, it’s shifting how you’re looking at things.

Jodi Cohen: And even, I mean, you’re in a long-term marriage. I’m in a long-term relationship. Sometimes if you had a choice of how you’d spend your day, you’d do it differently than your partner. But it brings them so much joy that it’s a win. It’s like, great. He does a lot for me. Absolutely. I can totally do this for him.

Tanya Dalton: I’d only say give and take, because I think take has such a negative connotation. It’s the give-and-receive of relationships, right? Yeah. I’ve been married almost 24 years now, and there’s a lot of give and receive, and you have to be willing to receive, which is one of the things women a lot of times have a hard time receiving, just actively, openly receiving, and we feel like we’re giving a lot. So there is a lot of that give and receive that I think is really important.

Jodi Cohen: This was amazing. I could talk to you for hours, and I’m sure everyone who’s listening is going to want to learn more. Can you share again where they can find you and how they can learn more or work with you?

Tanya Dalton: Absolutely. So basically, anywhere that you’re listening to this podcast, you can find my podcast, the Intentional Advantage. You can search by the Intentional Advantage or my name Tanya Dalton. I also have a substack that we mentioned earlier, not rocket science, and you can find that by going to tanyadalton.com/connect. And that’ll lead you there. And I just started it a couple of weeks ago, and I’m very excited about the direction it’s going. It’s creating a lot of conversations and a lot of ways to find a lot more meaning in what we talk about in the podcast or just in things you’re already doing in your regular everyday life. It is, it’s kind of shifting the mindset. So tanyadalton.com/connect.

Jodi Cohen: I love that. And overwhelm and time management are so tricky. So thank you for helping us reframe this and really helping everyone kind of get those million-dollar minutes.

Tanya Dalton: Absolutely. Thanks so much for having me, Jodi. This was a lot of fun. Jodi Cohen: This was great. Thank you.

Tanya Dalton: Thank you.

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